¶The vertuous scholehous of vngracious women. ☞A godly dialogue or communication of two Systers. The one a good and vertuous wedowe, oute of the land of Meissen. The other, a curst vngracious, froward and brawlinge woman, oute of the mountaynes. To the honour and prayse of all good women. And to the rebuke and instruccion of suche as be vnpacient.
❧Gwalter Lyn to the reader.
THe holy Apostle Paule to the Romaynes in the xv. writeth that, whatsoeuer is wrytten afore, is wrytten for oure learnynge and instruction. Wherfore in thys Dialogue christen reader, thou findest a very godly communicatiō betwene two Systers.
Iustina a Godly wydowe out of the lande of meyssen. Serapia a waywarde vngodly maryed woman. This complayneth vpon her husbande, and wilfull children. The other instructeth and conforteth her in pacience, [Page] to be obedient vnto her wedded husband, and to brynge vp her children in the feare of God, with fayre wordes, & decent nurtour and correction, groundyng thesame in the holy scripture of God, & confirmynge thesame by many goodly examples, for Iustina is alwayes mynded to lyue godly, cōtrarywyse Serapia, whiche bylyke receyued that name at the fonte. And doutles, yf honest and vertuous huswyues or wydowes shall se, reade or heare thys dialogue, they shall strengthen theyr vertuous myndes in it. Agayne, yf rude, in apte stubborne wyues shall also heare the same, thei shall take occasion to knowe [Page] them selues and to amende their conditions. Wherfore Christen reader, vouchesafe to iudge, and vnderstande the same with a godly mynde, and accepte it for good, for asmuche as it is digested after the simpelwitted nature and inordinate speache of women. And here in is no rule prescrybed vnto the good, nor yet any correction layde to heauy vpō the ignorant.
Iustina
Serapia
God spede my hartly beloued sister.
oh it is good y t thou doest ones come to me, but ye stately folkes in your coūtre care not for vs poor soules here without. In this countre God thanke the good Iustina, [Page] thou arte hartely wilcome vnto me.
My dearly beloued syster. God thanke the, howe canst thou saye, that I am to stately for the, I haue reioyced hartely to come vnto the, thynkest thou also, that I care not for the, notwithstondynge that thou knowest well ynough, that I haue alwayes loued the before other of oure systers, Therfore I come to the nowe, to visyte the, and to se how thou doest, Simplicius thy good man, and thy louinge children.
O howe do verely, I coulde be cō tent to take it better, with vs is nothing but labor and trauayll, and yet haue nothynge for it.
Oh deare syster, complayne not to I praye the, thanke the heauenly father, that he geueth helth vnto thy louynge husband and childrē whiche is the greatest gyfte and grace of God, and also the costlyes treasure in earthe. Also let it not be tedious but pleasyng vnto the, that God causeth not al thynges to succede vnto the, after thy ne owne mynde and wyll as vnto the vngodly, where of Dauid sayth. I was greued at the wicked, whan I sawe the vngodly in suche prosperyte, for they are in no parel of death, but are lusty and stronge. They come in no misfortune as other folke, neyther are they plaged lyke [Page] other men. Lo (sayth he) these are the vngodly, these prospere in the worlde, and these haue ryches in possession, but be thou of good chere and thinke that thou arte in the nūbre of the godly, and saye with Dauid, Psa. xij. Num. xiiij. ii. Esa. l. b ro. viijd whan I haue the Lorde. I care not for heauen nor earth, and cō playne not, that it is labour & trauayll, with our laboure and trauayll can we not lyue in this worlde. Gene. iij. c For the lorde God hath layed thys curse and malediction vpon the shoulders of all men, in hys wrath, euen in Paradyse, that we because of oure trāsgressions, must eate our breade in the sweate of oure faces in laboure and sorrowe. [Page] Thou nedest not to saye, also that thou hast nothynge besydes, thou wilt not be content with that, whiche God hath geuen the, and yet geueth dayly, where by I may perceyue, that thou hast but smal trust in God.
yea, the longer I truste, the lesse I haue. The daye hath ben, that I had somewhat, but now all is gone to the deuyll.
God saue vs from the Deuyll, good syster speake not so waywardely, knowest thou not, that euen as God is beleued and trusted, euen so is he had & founde? yf thou beleue that he wil preserue the, thy good man and thy children, truely he shall do it, and wyl do it with [Page] a good wyll, but yf thou do mistrust hym, and be douteful in the mater, thinkynge that thou must prosecute & brynge it to passe, by thy care, labour, and paines, Prou. than sendeth God scarcite. For whatsoeuer the vngodly feareth the same cometh vpon hym. Thys doth he for thys cause, that we shulde knoweledge that he is almightye, and that we of our owne powers, without hys grace cā do nothynge. i. Pet. a Mat. [...] c Luc. xi Psalm lv. c. Therfore caste all thy care (sayth Peter, vpon the lorde, for he careth for vs, he wyl also (as Dauid sayth) not alwayes leaue the righteous and them that trust in hym, in tribulacion.
Thou sayest very [Page] well deare syster. Thou maiest trust in God wel ynough for thou arte ryche, and hast ynough. But yf the worlde were so hard with the, as it is with me, thou shouldest cō playne as well as I. For I se wel ynough, whan I sitte longe still, and care not, or do nothynge, than haue I nothynge, I must surely studye and do for it, no mā will bringe me ought at home, Also my husbande is seldom at home, he goeth furth aboute hys busynes, and careth not howe I kepe hous with the children.
Vvith all thy carefulnes and sekynge, shalt thou preuayl nothing, deare syster, remembre the kynde wordes of Christe, and [Page] print them surely in thy harte, whereas he saieth. Matth. vi. Luc. xij. Be not carefull for your lyfe, what ye shall eate, or what ye shall drynke, nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on, is not the life more worth then meat, and the body more of valewe then rayment? Beholde the foules of the ayer, for thei sowe not, neyther reape, nor yet cary into the barues, and yet your heauē ly father fedeth them. Are ye not moche better then they? Vvhy care ye then for rayment? Considre the lilyes of the felde, howe they growe. They labour not, neither spinne. And yet for all that, I saye vnto you, that euen Salomon in all hys [Page] royaltye, was not arayed lyke vnto one of these. Therfore take no thought sayenge, what shall we eate, or what shal we drinke, or where with shall we be cloteth? After all these thinges seke the gentyles. Therfore be not lyke vnto the heathen, frettinge and vexinge thy selfe, with suche vnprofitable cares and thoughtes, for the wyse Salomon sayeth, Carefull trauayll hurteth, but blessed is he that trusteth in the Lorde. Mat. vi Christe sayth further in the Chapiter aboue mentioned. Seke ye firste the kyngdome of heauen, & the righteousnes thereof, & al these thinges shal be ministred vnto you, [Page] for your heauēly father knoweth y t ye haue nede of meat drynke cloth & all these thinges. Thys conforte shouldest thou truely take to thy hart deare syster, and trust there to. I haue suche a strōg confidence in my God, & in these confortable wordes of Christe, that althoughe I wyth my poore fatherles children, had nothinge at al, or as lyttell as thou, howe be it thou hast ynough, and nedest not to cōplayne, yet do I knowe surely, y t he wyll not forsake me, but nourysshe me & my chyldren, as the byrdes of y e ayer, & cloth me as y e floures & lilyes of y e felde. That thou saiest, thy husbande goeth and executeth hys offyce, is [...] vnreasonable Pius [Page] my deare husbande (whome God pardon) dyd so likewise I thought, yf he had not alwayes ben at home, nothynge had gone froward. But nowe I knowe, that he dyd more wyth one worde, than I can do in a hole daye, nowe begynne I fyrst to mysse hym.
No I can not tell what good he doth, he is nowe so stubborne and waywarde towardes mee & the children, that I knowe not, howe it cometh to passe, or what he ayleth, he fretteth and vexeth hymselfe, in vayne and for nought. I thynke he wyl be starke madde or oute of hys wittes.
O good syster, I beleue that thou arte the greatest [Page] occasiō of his fretting and disquietynge, thou arte to frowarde and obstinate, agaynst hym (as I heare) thou dost not suffer hym a worde, brawlest alwaies with hym, and orderest hym very euyll, notwitstandynge he is an honest simple man, which is loth to fyghte and brawle with the, as other frowarde men do. And also I beleue, and am sure, that he is no dronkarde, hoo remonger nor player.
Howe a dronkarde, hooremonger, or player? yf he were suche one, Oh, then woulde I haue a stomake with hym, I would plucke my selfe with hym, as the one deuyll with the other.
Lo, nowe I perceyue what is in the, and that thou arte so stoute and waywarde agaynst the good mā. He hath also desyred me, to rebuke the gentely for it, Oh sayd he, thou sufferest no mā to reproue the, also thou wilt not heare hym, speake he neuer so kyndely vnto the, neyther arte thou willinge to go to the worde of God, or preachynge, and also thou louest not to heare hym reade at home (whiche is a signe of an vngodly conuersation) chydest with hym, euermore before men, bringest not vp thy children in the feare and correction of God, angrest thy selfe vnreasonably [Page] by and withoute a cause, disagreest with thy neyghboures. Shoulde not thys greue thy good husbande? I beleue or a trueth that thou doest greue hym sore with it.
Vvhat care I for that? Although I am frowarde, seynge many spiteful tonges do reporte it by me, so that I am no hoore as some be. Also I knowe very well, that my husbande euery where maketh hys reportes of me, what shulde I do to hym? shoulde I call hym gracious Lorde? I woulde rather se hym hanged. Wel wel, I wil one daye begynne a matter with hym, that he shall not thinke.
God forbidde, let not suche euill [Page] thoughtes entre into thy herte, but I perceyue that (as Christe saith) of the aboundaunce of the herte the mouth speaketh, Mat xij nowe do thy frutes breake forth, nowe arte thou lyke vnto vnblusshed lymestone, whiche whan colde water is poured vpō it bloweth breaketh smoketh and burneth vnnaturally, euen so doest thou also, I haue somwhat gentily admonysshed and frendly reproued the (howe be it I thought thou wouldest haue taken it for none euill of me) but thou vsest vngracious wordes, cursest thy good husbande, whome by reason thou oughtest to kepe in honour, be obedient vnto him, [Page] as vnto the lorde, and also be not thy husbandes maister (as Paule teacheth but be styll, shoulde not suche vngracious, yea I will saye also vngodly wordes greue thy good man, and prouoke hym to anger? Oh be ashamed, I heare no mā, that speaketh euill by thy husbande, but that he is good and honeste, gentyll, courteous, & lyueth charitably with al mē, without any contention or debate, glad to heare and to reade the worde of God, and to further the same, and that the people are very fauourable and louinge towardes hym.
I knowe that well ynough, that the folles loue hym, and specially [Page] some wyues loue hym very wel, thou nedest not to tel me thereof, but yf I may come ones to the ryght grounde of the matter, thou shalt se, what I wyl do, also I passe not for his goynge to churche, hearynge of sermons, or readynge, the more he goeth to Churche or readeth, the lesse I haue, & sence Luther, the newe preachinge, the hereticall bokes and readyng came vp haue I almost loste all that I had, and I thinke I shall neuer haue lucke with hym as longe as he lyueth, woulde god that the deuill woulde shortely ridde hym out of the waye.
By thy frutes it is knowen, what maner of tree [Page] thou arte, o, doest thou not truste thy husbande? & standest in feare of him, for other good women? god saue me, I take pitye vpon the, that thou arte such a wilde and stubborne woman, what wilt thou shewe thy selfe? of a trueth I woulde not haue beleued it, if any man had tolde it me, but thou comest forth thy selfe with suche vnmanerly communication before me, whereof by reason thou shouldest refrayne thy selfe, what doest thou then before other folkes? Oh nay deare syster do not so, knowest thou not that euery mā is hys wyues heade, Ephe. v i. Co. xi i. Pet. iij and we wyues ought to be obedient and subiect vnto our husbandes [Page] in all thynges, euen as also God, hath geuen vnto the man in Paradise, the rule ouer the woman, whereas he saieth. Gen. iij Thou shalt bowe before thy husbande and he shall haue the rule of the. This is the cause also (as Paule sayth) that we go attyred and haue a power vpō our heades, i. Cor. ij whereby we shoulde remembre, that we must lyue vnder the power and subiection of the man. And therfore must I nowe (for as much as my louynge husband, of blessed memory, is dead) lette hange my power or vayle downewardes from my heade, whereby is signifyed that I am a wydowe, hauynge no power or [Page] husbande that nowe hath rule of me. Thou sayest also that thou doest not passe vpō thy husbandes goynge to Churche, hearynge of sermons, or readynge, notwithstandynge that we haue nothinge in earth more blessed more profitable, and better, then to heare and reade the worde of God, Matth. iiij. Deute. viij we are also nourysshed, and lyue by euery word that procedeth oute of the mouth of god, and not onely by bread. Nowe yf thy husbande also shoulde not heare or reade the worde of God, where by all thinges are sanctified, and be so frowarde, wilde and vnmanered as thou, whiche fearest not God, & canst agree with [Page] no body. Oh, what alyfe shoulde that be? And beleue me truely, y t thou, thy children and the hole hous, is sanctified and preserued of God through thy vertuous husbande, Co. vij as Paule saieth, that the vnbeleuyng wyfe is sanctifyed by the husbande, or els shoulde all thinges go to wracke with the.
What shoulde he sanctifie me, if he myght drowne me in a spone full of water, he woulde do it, he kepeth me some tyme lyke a dish cloute, thinkest thou, that I suffer it? No I warraunte the.
Truely, thou haste a ryght name Seropia or Serapia, seldom or very littell good, thou haste euē the [Page] name with the deade. But this I knowe of a trueth, & haue perceyued it, that thy husbande, is but the gentyll to good, simple, & kynd, and geueth y e no strypes, kepeth the reasonably & honestly (wherfor he may well be called Simplitiꝰ) & whē he doth all thinges for the best, & intreateth y e moost gētlyest of all then doest thou soberate hym w t spiteful wordes, that it is shame, shoulde not this greue hym? shoulde not this frette & vexe him? Pro. xij. euē as also Salomō saith, y t such a shamefull, vngentill, vnmanered, waiward womā, is a corruptiō in her husbandes bones. And in another place sayth he. A froward womā, [Page] woundeth the harte, to woū de the harte, truely greueth a man sore sayth Salomon and geueth counsayl, saienge that it is better to dwell in a very bare lande, then with such a chyding, Ireful and froward woman. In lyke maner he speaketh also of the good women sayenge, y t a resonable meke and vertuous woman, Pro. xij. is a crowne vnto her husbande. Suche a good and discrete woman geueth god, & in another place sayth he. A gentyll wyfe maketh her husband glad, and nouryssheth hys bones, yea she is hys wysedome. Proue. xviij. And whosoeuer (sayth he) findeth such a wyfe, findeth a good thynge, and receyueth a holsome [Page] benefite of the lorde. Therfor deare syster, let not suche vngodlines and wickednes be spoken of the, for it is a great synne before God, and before the worlde great shame, take the good women of the olde Testamēt for an example, be paciēt as Lea, frendly as Ruth, true vnto thy husband, as Michell, the wyfe of Dauid, measurable as Iudith, meke as Hester, chaste as good Susanna, and obedient vnto thy husbande, as Rebecca, Remembre that thy husbande is thy lorde, i. Co. xi Ephe. v and thy head euen as Christe is the Lorde and heade of the congregation, i. Co. vij and that thou hast no power ouer thy body, but thy [Page] husbande, and put thy trust in God. And be of a lowly spirite, that thou mayest be called a doughter of Sara.
yf I knowe the not, I shoulde thinke, that thou were a waylysshe woman, because that thou canst talke so well, thou shouldest serue well for a preacher, thou arte well sene in scripture, and depely learned, what hath my husbande geuē the, that thou thus doest chapter me, thou doest it not of thy selfe.
Thou callest it Chapterynge but knowest thou what Chapterynge is? In tymes past was it, and is yet the vse amonge the freares, that euery frydaye before dyner, they gathered [Page] them selues togeher in the chapiter house, where as euery one seuerally was constrayned to shryue hymselfe and confesse hys fautes openly, whiche he had committed thoroughoute the holy weke. After that dyd the Abbot or Priour geue a good discipline or correction, with roddes vnto suche as had deserued it, for their faultes, And if the Abbot or prioure had perpetrated ought thē selues they were fayne to suffer it in lyke maner &c.
The holy saynt Paul, wryteth vnto the Romaynes, Corinthiās, Galathians, Ephesiās &c. certayn Epistles, whiche are diuided into Chapiters, wherein he teacheth [Page] the faythe in Christe, and the loue towardes our neighbours, after that he admonysheth them of the doctryne, whiche they had hearde of hym, at the last doth he also reproue them for certayne errours that were amonge them, euen as I do nowe to the, but I trust that my chapiter shall not be kept in vayne vpon the, but that thou shalt there by be amended, and waxe good and vertuous. I haue also receyued no gyftes of thy husbande, y t I thus rebuke the, but I am bounde in conscience, & of charitable loue, vnto the and to all men, in thys case or in other lyke cases, yf I se any man erre, that I shal [Page] rebuke, and chapter hym for it charitably, yf any heare me and amende for it, than haue I wonne hys soule, In lyke maner arte thou and al men bounde to do the same also, and yf thou knowe any lack faute or errour in me (where of I am not fre) thou must also chapter me for it. I wyll followe the, and take it well in worth and amende my faulte.
Diddest thou alwayes talke so gently with thy husbande? diddest thou neuer anger hym? nor curse hym? I knowe that thou haste an hasty anger raigninge in the. I am surely, thou diddest not alwaies bake pancackes for hym.
Herken my [Page] dearly beloued syster, I wyll tel the, howe I led my lyfe w t Pius, my good man, (whome God pardon) and howe he be stowed his lyfe with me Vvhā the almighty God, after hys godly ordināces had coupled vs bothe together in mariage, I htought lykewyse. Nowe must we labour, care, scrape, and scratche, y t we may gette our lyuinge in this spitefull miserable worlde, I fared with my good mā and familie very hardely in meate and drynke. I comme seldome to any preaching, to heare the worde of God. I woulde lende nothing to no man, and thought alwayes, that I must bryng it to passe by my carefulnes, laboure & [Page] trauayll to waxe ryche, I thought not that God dyd care for me, or made me ryche. Also I knowe not the godly sayenge of Salomon, where he sayth. It is very easy, and a lyght thyng vnto the Lorde, to make a pore man ryche, neyther had I at that tyme so muche knowledge, and trust in God (whiche I wil speake thanked be god, withoute any boaste) as I haue nowe, but whan Pius my louinge husbande sawe, that I was so earnest and sparyng, & thoughte by myne owne prouision, withoute the helpe of god, to be made ryche, he spake vnto me gently with kynde wordes. My louynge [Page] Iustina, I se a great lacke and faute in the, It pleaseth my not that thou louest not to go to the sermō, to heare the worde of God, hast no trust in God, arte vnwillinge to lende to any mā, kepest the house and familie to harde, and wilde be ryche al to hastely, it will not frame so, Paul saith to hys disciple Thimothee. i. tim. vi They that wyll be ryche, fall into temptacions and snares, and into many foolishe and noysome lustes, which drowne mē, into perdition, and destruction, for couetousnes is the rote of all euyll. Thou shouldest not be able to stande before God, nor yet before man. But thus must thou do. First [Page] I will haue of the, that thou shalt lose neuer a sermon, y t thou be desirous to heare y e worde of God, and whē thou hast heard it, that thou pray vnto God for grace, that he will vouchesafe, to geue vnto the fayth, and the frutes therof, that thou maiest amende thy lyfe, forgeue thyne aduersary, be willinge to lende vnto thy neighbour. Although y t thou thinkest y t thou shalte haue nothynge for it. God is able to se y e payde agayn, be in charite with all men, stryue with no man be not lichtely prouoked to anger (euen as we wyues are sone displeased) and kepe not thyne owne hous, children and familye, to streighte, [Page] than shalt thou se and fynde, that god wyll dayly blesse the, and make thy partaker of hys blessynges and benefites, as the wyse Salomon sayth. The blessynge of the Lord, maketh ryche withoute trauayll, the same blessinge shall be confortable & profitable vnto vs in soule, body, honour, and goodes. &c. By suche frendely wordes was I moued, that afterwarde I folowed hym gently vntyll hys departynge, after that I went gladly to y e preachyng, whā I had hearde y e word of god, I bē sought god (as Dauid) & sayd, Psal. li. O my god make me a cleane hert, and renewe a ryght spirite within me. Caste my not awaye [Page] from thy presence, and take not thy holy spirite frō me. Then did god heare me, and made me another womā than I was afore, we lyued merely together god gaue vs goodly children, and goodes ynough for them, in somoche also that I knowe not fro whence it came. Then dyd I perceyue and se, that all oure care, labour & trauayll (without the blessing of god) is lost and in vayne, wherby we thinke to waxe ryche, whereas god geueth not, there hath no man ought, as Dauid sayth, Psalm. cxxvij It is but lost laboure, that ye haste to ryse vp early, and so late take rest, & eate the breade of [Page] carefulnesse. For vnto hys frendes, and vnto these that he fauoureth, and also vnto suche as truste in hym, doth he geue it slepinge. Wherfor gentell syster folowe not thy ne owne mynd and brayne, but folowe thy husband, euē as I knowe that he is ready alwayes to instructe the gētly, with the worde of God, & other charitable wordes. Feare God. Be willinge & glad to go to the sermons, and to heare the worde of God, beseeche God for grace, euē as I haue done, be not waiwarde and angry at home with thy husbande, children and familie. Be long sufferinge, patient, and stryue not with thy neyghbours, and do vnto [Page] euery man, as thou wouldest be done to, than shalt thou se playnely before thyne eyes, and fynde, that God almightye shall sende & powre hys blessynge vpon the, & vpon thy hole house, & shall geue the more, then thou shalt nede.
yea thou speakest well, yf I had alwaies leasure to go to churche, aswell as thou and my husbande, but I haue somewhat elles to do, I can not ones go to churche, but there is some hurte or myschiefe done at home, or els I lose somewhat, or somwhat escapeth me, whiche might fynde me the hole weke.
Haste thou not hearde a prouerbe, whiche soundeth [Page] thus. The hearynge of a sermon loseth nothynge, geuinge of Almes impouerissheth nothynge, and euill gotten goodes enrycheth nothyng. And thys prouerbe is true, as other godly scriptures are. Thou sayest, that thou losest moche, and that thou endurest hurte and damage by thy goyng to churche, that is euen as moche to saye, as what haue I to do with god, hys worde or preachynge, I must do my busynes, preferrynge thy doynge, and carefulnes before the worde of god, as though thy cause were more necessary. Oh naye deare syster, thou hast heard that nothing is lost, by y e hearynge of a sermon. And beleue [Page] me truely, yf thou were desyrous and willynge to go to the sermon, and diddest cō mende al thy mater at home to God, it shoulde go better with a great deale, and more shoulde be done, then whē thou doest scratche and rake so long at home. For we must first seke then kyngdome of God, and as then shall all other bodely necessaryes be ministred vnto vs, but whosoeuer is ashamed thereof (sayth Christe) & heareth not me wordes, of hym wil I also be ashamed before my heauē ly father. Nowe haue we nothynge vpon yearth to do more necessarye, neyther is there any thynge commaunded vnto vs more [Page] highly. Also we ought to accepte none occasion to hynder or let vs from the hearinge of the worde of God, for therein are we taught, the fayth in God, and in Iesus Christe hys sonne, and the loue towardes our neighbour but howe can we beleue, saieth Paule, yf we heare not the worde of God? how canst thou beleue, & put thy truste in god? loue thy neyghbour, forgeue thyne enemyes, or howe wilt thou be saued, yf thou heare not the worde of god? but yf thou wilt obtayne al these thinges, then go willingly to the sermon, and heare the worde of god attē tyuely with diligence.
Although men go to the [Page] church moche and heare sermons dayly, yet do I se none that amendeth there by, the one can not aforde to the other, that the sunne shyneth vpon hym, & the worlde waxeth worse and worse.
Meruayll not at it that the world waxeth euil, thou mayst not put the faute in the preachyng, or in the worde of god, but in the hearers of it, which beleue it not, nor amende thēselues for it. But let the worde of god be preached, whan and where occasion shall serue, for it goeth not forth ydel, it findeth some men, that beleue it, and are amended through it, as the Lorde god sayth hymselfe, Esa. lv. lyke as the rayne and snowe [Page] cometh downe from heauē, & retourneth not thyther again, but wathereth y e earth maketh it fruteful & grene, y t it may geue corne vnto y e sower, & bread to him y e eateth. So the worde also, that cometh oute of my mouth, shal not tourne agayn voyde vnto me, but shall accomplyshe me wil, and prospere in the thinge, where vnto I sende it. Wherfor let it not moue y e although y e hole world be offended at it, heare thou the word of god gladly & earnestly. Pray vnto god for y e faith, lyue & do thereafter, & forgeue thy neighboure, so shalt thou prosper also, as y e Lorde saith, & al thinges shal amē de with the.
I [Page] coulde be content to se an amendement. But to be at one with them, and to speake louingely vnto those, that put me to hinderaunce, and help to begyle me. I wil not, I would rather se them at y e deuill, I will nor can not forget it, vntil I be auenged on some of thē.
There do I perceyue, y t as yet thou arte no Christian, for thou wilt not, neyther canst thou speake kyndly vnto thy neyghbour, nor be at one with hym.
Secondly, thou doest asscribe thyne aduersitye and misfortune vnto men, and not vnto God, as though it were not the good and gratious pleasure of God, [Page] that all thynges succede not alwayes after thyne owne braynes, Thirdly, thou wilt not forget, nor forgeue thyne aduersary, but desyrest to be reuenged vpon hym.
I praye the heare me. I am at one with many folkes, that do good vnto me & I agayn vn to them, but y t myne aduersitye should come from god, that can not I beleue, in no wyse I shoulde be in rest longe ynough for oure lorde god, yf wicked people woulde let me alone. Also a wyse woman hath tolde me my fortune, that many wicked people shall trouble me, and that I shal haue no good fortune as long as me husband lyueth, yet I must [Page] be at one with certeyne persons for my husbandes sake, vntyll a tyme conuenient, y t I maye be euen with them, for the shrewed tournes, whiche they haue done me.
The good lorde saue me, doest thou also beleue southsayers, and olde miscreaunte witches? i. Re. xxviij. d Truely it is highly prohibited of God in the scripture. In so moche y t kynge Saull sped very euil, for as moche as he forsoke god, and asked counsayl of a witche, whiche had a southsayenge spirite. In lyke maner was also serued kynge Ahasia, whiche soughte counseill at hys Idoll Beelzebub wherfore beware, that thou geue no credēce to any sothsayers, [Page] or sorcerers. Nowe herken vnto me, I can not forbeare but that I must answere to these thre poyntes. Fyrst thou sayest, that thou arte at one and at peace w t them, that do good vnto the & that thou doest also good vnto them, what maner of vnity is that? where by a mā may perceyue, that yf any of them, with whome thou arte nowe at peace, shoulde displease the, thyne vnity & cōcorde should loue be at an ende with thē. mat. viij Luc. vi. And it is euē as Christe sayth, yf ye loue them, whiche loue you, what rewarde shall ye haue? for the Publicanes and very synners loue theyr louers. And yf ye do for them which [Page] do for you, what thanke are ye worthy of? for the very sinners do euen the same. But I saye vnto you (sayth Christe) loue your enemyes. Do good to thē which hate you. Blesse them that curse you. Praye for them whiche wrongefully trouble you. Blesse and curse not sayth Paull. Nowe concludeth Christe saynge, vnto him that smiteth the on the one cheke, offer also the other. And hym that taketh thy goune, forbidde not to take thy coate also. Geue to euery man that asketh of the. And of hym that taketh awaye thy goodes, aske them not agayne. He will not haue that we shall onely agree with thē, which [Page] do good vnto vs, but also w t them, that Imagine all mischief agaynst vs, and hurte vs, and that vnto them we shoulde do all good. Secondarely, thou beleuest not, y t thyne aduersitie and misfortune cometh from god, whiche causeth al good thynges and euil thinges, as the lorde god sayth hymselfe, I am the lorde, and none other, whiche make the light, and cause the darkenes, which geue peace and cause the euyll, I am the lorde whiche doth all these thinges. Seinge god doth al these thynges, howe darest thou then put the faulte vnto the wicked people, which notwithstandinge, withoute the will [Page] of God are able to do nothinge, god doth also conforte vs whereas he saith, I am your conforter, who arte thou thē that arte afrayed of men? which notwithstondyng are mortall, and of the children of men, whiche are deliuered vp as heye, & forgettest the lorde, whiche created the, whiche spred oute the heauen, and grounded y e earth. Euen as also no man was able to hurte or endamage the good Iob, vntyl god gaue power vnto Satan to proue hym. Christe sayth also, Mat. x. that we shoulde not feare them, whiche hurte or kyll the body, for al the heares of our heades are nombred and none of them falleth on [Page] the grounde without y e wyll of the heauenly father. He careth for vs, and loueth vs so moche, that he saith, He that toucheth vs, toucheth the appel of hys eyes. for whatsoeuer happeneth vnto vs, be it good or bad, cometh al by thy good & gracious will of God. But who cā (sayth Paule) resiste his will Therfore hath Christ taught vs to praye vnto the heauenly father. Mat. vi Thy wyll be done in earth as it is in heauen. Therfore nedest thou not to asscribe vnto any man the good or euill whiche happeneth vnto vs, but onely vnto God, whiche because of oure synnes sendeth vs aduersitye. Thyrdely, thou cāst [...] [Page] y t she was throwen down frō a wyndowe & eaten of dogs. Me thinketh also, y t thou arte to fearce & desyrous of vengeaunce against euery mā, & specially agaynst thyne own children, for when any of thē doth any thynge, which pleaseth the not, thē doest thou auenge by and by, & beatest thē to sore & out of due tyme, wherof the children become dulwitted & fearful.
I haue suche frowarde childrē, I beleue y t there are no worse in al this land, yea I thinke verely y t they are euen yonge Deuyls, for none of them wyll take any nourture, nor correction at my hā de, neyther doth any of thē regarde me, I can not tell [Page] howe to do with them, yf it were not for my husbande, whome they dreade sore. For yf I shoulde brynge them vp alone, truely I woulde beate them all awaye from me.
That thyne, myne and other mennes children, are wilfull, and stubborne, is not to be meruayled at. For it is geuen vnto all men euen by nature from Adam, that all the myndes thoughtes and Imaginations of theyr hartes are euyll, and more inclined and prone to y t which is euyll then to that which is good. Therfor hath God ordeyned and geuen to the children parentes, fathers and mothers, and also to all men Superiors, for [Page] to breake our wilfulnes, and oure owne myndes, and to drawe vs to the feare, & honour of God, and to all vertue and that we shoulde lyue vnder theyr obedience. Therfor deare syster instructe fyrst thy children truely in the commandementes of God. accordynge as thou arte bounde vnto them, and be gentyl to them. for whā they are kept so harde & streighte and are brought vp in suche great feare, thē become they fearfull, wilde and stubborne people, when they growe to age whiche neyther care for father, nor yet for mother, and yf they growe vp so, thei are also disobedient to all hyer powers. Paule teacheth [Page] also, that we should not bringe them vp, Eph. vi Coll. iij. so straighly, and be not so harde vnto them, moue them not to wrath, & rate them not least thei be of a desperate mynd, but bring them vp with the nourture and information of the Lorde. Thou mayst not also be to softe for them, nor suffer them to haue the brydell to large, that they waxe not wylfull, and despyse the and thy husbande, as it was sene by Absolon, and more other wicked children. Therfore hath Salomon taught often, that we shoulde kepe oure children vnder correction, not sparynge the rodde where as nede requireth, saynge. Pro. xiij He that spareth the [Page] rodde, hateth hys sonne, but who so loueth hym, chasteneth hym betymes. And in an other place sayth he, Ecl. viij and xxx yf thou haue sonnes, bryng thē vp in nourtoure and learninge and hold them in awe frō theyr youth vp. Moreouer y e scripture doth set before vs for an Example and a warnynge, y t which happened vnto the prieste Ely and vnto his children, i. Re. iij because that they were obstacle agaynste their father, and he was to slacke in correctynge of thē. for it was their death, and destruction. Also thy correction must be measurable, & not to harde nor tyrannous, but fatherlyke & motherlyke as Sal. saith. Pro. xix Chastē thy sonne [Page] whyle there is hope, but let not thy soule be moued to slay hym. for great wrath bryngeth hurte, therfore delyuer hym, then mayest thou correcte hym more. Of such harde and vnmeasurable correction, do we reade an Exāple in Titus Liuius, of a certayne Senatour of Rome called Lucius Manlius, which dyd set furth a commaundement, that noman shoulde presume to fyght with the enemyes without a furder cō maundement, which hys owne sonne transgressed, ouercame and disconfited the enemyes. Wherfore hys father caused hys head to be strikē of openly, not regardynge y t he therby had done good [Page] seruice to hys natiue countree, and obtayned victory, honour and peace for it. Accordynge as we reade, that Saul was also very harde vnto hys sonne Ionathas, for an vnreasonable cause etc. Thou shouldest also sette them to scole or els kepe thē at theyr worke, and let them not go ydell, whereby they may be occupied and taught to forgette Idelnes in theyr youth, for whan a mā goeth Idel, then doth he learne al euyll, as lyenge, deceyuyng, drinkyng, playenge, dicyng, louyng, and such lyke. Therfore shouldest thou alwayes be doyng with them, and lette them thereof, and specially thy doughters, that they [Page] do not chaunce some where amonge euill company, and come to a shamefull fall, euē as it happened vnto Dina, Eccl. vij the doughter of Iacob. And the wyse Salomon sayeth and teacheth, Genesi. xxxiiij. yf thou haue doughters, kepe theyr body and shewe not thy face cherefull towarde them. But where as thou sayest that thou arte not able to rule thy children, and to bryng them vp without thy husbande, there strikest thou thy selfe w t thyne owne swearde, thou saydest afore, that thou haddest nothyng to do with thy husband, & dyddest not care (as I vnderstode it) though he were dead, for the whiche I pray God, preserue hym [Page] longe. O good syster, what a poore lyfe shouldest thou leade with thy small children, thou knowest not yet, that a good man (euē as thou hast) is suche a costly Iewell in a housse, neither beleuest thou that a wydowe with many childrē, though she be neuer so ryche is such a poore desolate womā. Truely thyne vnprofitable & vncomly wordes wyl moue me to be angry, & to fal out with y t.
Oh good Iustina be not angry, I will now waxe good, & set vp another heade, though I should fetche it out of y e housse of dead mēnes bones, yf I knewe in dede, y t I shoulde chaūce of a better.
Alas what should I do, how moch instrucciō, [Page] admonicion, and gentyl correction, I spend on the, al is in vayne. For thou makest euē a gest of it. Thou shouldest not (sayth Paul) let any filthy communication come out of thy mouth, but y e whiche is good to edifye with al, Eph. iiij when nede is, that it may haue faueour with y e hearers for of such, and of euery ydel or vnprofitable worde, Mat xij muste we geue accomptes before God, at the daye of Iudgement. Therfore I beseeche the gentyll syster. It is truely more then tyme, for a woman, ful of filthy and vnprofitable communication, and withoute discrete maners (sayth Salomon) is lyke vnto a sowe, Prou. xi with a ryng of golin [Page] her nose.
Doest thou nowe first lyken me vnto a sowe, thou hast comptrolled me ynough, ceasse nowe, and let vs talke of an other matter. for I se wel ynough, that thou haste no luste to tary long with me.
Who thinkest thou woulde be glad to be with the, seynge thou chidest and brawlest still, and noman can gette a good worde of the first I beleue thy good husband, that thou takest neuer a word for good, neyther of him, nor yet of noman elles, shoulde not thys greue hym? Verely I haue sene in oure quarters, that such an vndiscrete and froward womā, hath brought her husbande, to dishonestlye. [Page] Wherfore refrayne thy selfe from so doyng, that there happē not a worse thinge vnto the.
Well let the matter rest here, I beseeche the, forgeue me good syster Iustina, I wil do it no more from henceforth I knowledge that I haue ben very frowarde and euyl, but I wyl nowe take vpon me another lyfe.
For as muche as thou doest knowledge thyne offence, and wilt amend thy conditions, be it forgeuen vnto the. Luc xvij for Christ sayth, yf thy brother or syster offende, rebuke hym, and yf he repente and amende, forgeue hym &c. Therfore do it no more, do not anger thy husbande, neyther chyde, [Page] nor brawle with hym nor yet with other men. for wheresoeuer enuyenge and stryfe is (sayth Saynt Iames) there is vnstablenes and al maner of euyll workes. Iaco. iij. Iaco. iiij Speake not euyl behynde other mē nes backes. Luce. vi Pull not a mote out of any mannes eye, as longe as thou haste a beame in thyne eyes, that thou be not lyke vnto the man with the two powches, whereof the Histories do wryte.
Vvhat maner of man was that? or what had he in hys two powches? I neuer hearde of him before in al my lyfe.
y e will I tel y t, & it is good to perceyue. Thus wryteth Esopꝰ, y t there was sōtym a substācial mā, which dyd [Page] backbite the people very euill and praysed himselfe, hauinge alwaies two powches gyrded about hym, the one great, before hym vpon hys belly, which he myght se, the other littel, behynde hym vpon hys backe, whiche he coulde not se, Nowe whatsoeuer fautes or euill he espied of hys neyghboures dyd he wryte vp, and layd them in the formost powche vpō hys belly, in so muche that the great powch waxed hole ful. But whatsoeuer he did back byte and slaunder hym selfe of other, the same coulde he, neyther write vp nor yet perceyue, and the same layde he in the hyndermost powche vpon hys backe. Now whan [Page] and wheresoeuer he came amonge companye, he put alwayes hys hande in the formoost powche, wherein he founde alwayes, all other mens fautes, wherfore he spake alwayes euill of other men. But he coulde not put hys hand into hys smal powche vpon his backe, neyther had he put any thyng of him selfe in it, that is, Luc. vi he espyed alwayes a chippe or mote in his neyghbours eye, but the great beame in hys own eye he coulde not perceyue. And he was euen a fellowe lyke vnto the Pharisee in the gospell, whiche boasted & praysed hymselfe of hys ryghteousnes, and despised the poore publicane. Now mayest [Page] thou easely vnderstonde the man with the two powches. Thou shalt fynde them to sel painted vpō papers, bye one of thē, & let thy husbāde rede it vnto the.
well I wil marke it diligently, I se well ynough that thou wilt tary no longer by my wherfore I desyre the good syster Iustina, for as moche as the new yere approcheth, y t thou wilt leaue me somewhat for a newe yeres gifte or a tokē, wherby I may remember y t, as my dearly beloued syster.
Vvhat shoulde I leaue the? Actu. iij I haue nothynge, syluer and golde haue I not but suthe as I haue, I geue the (sayth saynte Peter) and of that wyll I also make the [Page] partaker.
Vvhatsoeuer thou doest geue or participate vnto me thesame wyll I thankefully receiue, shute it vp in my herte and kepe it whylest I lyue.
wel, then wyl I leaue thy some thynge for a newe yeres gyft, and for a remembraunce, whiche shall be better (as Dauid sayth) thē many thousande peeces of golde, I geue and leaue the Iesus Christe, the sonne of God, hys holy worde, and Gospell, and the hoolsome doctryne of Paule.
I beseeche the, put awaye from the thy former naughty lyfe, and conuersation, by whose lustes & errours thou arte corrupted, and renewe [Page] thy selfe in the spirite of thy conscience and mynde, & put on Christe the newe man, whiche is shapen after God, in true righteousnes and holynes, put away from the allyenge, and for asmuche as we are membres) speake trueth with thy neyghbour Be not angry with thy husbande, nor yet with other folkes, and let not the sonne go downe ouer thy wrath, geue no place vnto the backbeter or deuill, pleate the cause of the poore and nedefull, Eph iiij let no filthy cōmunicacion procede forth of thy mouth, greue not the holy Ghost, let all bitternes, fearsnes, wrath, rorynge, and cursed speakinge be put awaye from the, [Page] with all maliciousnes, be courteous and harty to all men and forgeue thyne aduersary, euen as God forgaue the and vs al, for Christes sake. Remember also, that thou without any delaye, be willynge and glad to go to the sermons, and desyrous to heare the worde of God, And pray vnto God for grace, that it wil please hym to strengthen the same in the, and to increace thy faythe. Also be not onely a hearer of the worde, Iacob. i. as Saint Iames saith, but declare it also with y e dede vnto thy neyghbour, that thou deceaue not thy selfe, for Christ speketh hym selfe. Blessed are they that heare the worde of God, and [Page] kepe the same, that is, that they lyue and do there after, accordynge as the holy saint Paule writeth vnto his scoller Titus, Tit. ij. and cōmaundeth hym howe he shoulde teache and speake vnto women, & so wyll I also, ryght well beloued syster, desyre and charge the, and leaue the for a remembraunce, that thou walke and behaue thy selues as becommeth holynes, that thou be no false accuser, not geuen to moche drynkinge, but a teacher of good and honest thynges, to make the yonge women sobreminded to loue theyr husbandes, to loue theyr children, to be discrete, chaste, huswyfly, good & obedient vnto their owne [Page] husbandes, y t the worde of God be not euil spoken of, & for to do all these thinges, desyre God moost hertily of his grace, & beleue without wauerynge, that he will geue y e grace to perfourme the same & as Christ sayth, whatsoeuer ye desyre of the father in my name. I wyl do it. And whatsoeuer ye desyre (vnderstāde that which perteyneth to saluacion and Christen cō uersaciō) beleue, and ye shall receyue it. These and no better thynges haue I to leaue the forthy newe yeres gyfte or for a remembraunce, desyryng that thou wilt also laye it vp, and kepe it diligently in the coffer of thy herte, [Page] then wyl God come, and geue the a newe herte & a newe spirit (as the Prophet faieth) then shalt thou se, Psal. li that God with al hys graces and blessynges, wyll come vpon thy, vpon thy husbande, thy children, and all thy housse, and that all thynges shal prospere with the.
I thanke the gentyll syster, that thou hast so frendly, rebuked, taught, and instructed me, I wyll neuer forgette it whyle I lyue, and I wil diligently folowe thy good counseyll, and I ensure the, that thou hast done more on me, with thy earnest exhortations, than all the priestes and preachers that euer I heard in thys lande, & thou [Page] arte also better learned and more experte in y e scripture thē they this wyll I also reporte of the before all men
Geue not the honour and prayse vnto me, For al honour and prayse belongeth to god onely, as god sayth hymselfe, I am the lorde, that is my name, I wyll geue myne honour to none other. Vnto hym wyll we also asscribe, geue, and saye all honoure and righteousnes, as the Prophet sayth. Dan. ix Al honor is thyne, and thou lorde arte righteous but we must be ashamed, and al shame is oures. Therfore geue the honour vnto God, and not to me, nor to any creature.
Honour and prayse be [Page] vnto God for euermore, and I beseeche the that it wyll please the to praye vnto god for me, that it wil please him to let me endure stedfastly to myne ende.
The holy saynt Iames teacheth vs that we shoulde pray one for another, that we myght all be saued, whiche I wyll also do truely for the, and for all men, do thou so lyke wyse for me. It is now tyme, I must be gone, my hartely be loued syster. The mercyfull God blesse the, and sende the hys blessynge. The grace & peace of oure Lorde Iesu Christe, be with thy louinge husbande Simplicius, (vnto whome thou shalt pronounce my harty commendations, [Page] whan he cometh home) and with all thy familye, I committe the to the tuition of God.
God thanke the my louinge syster, and God sende the prosperite and health, that thou mayest come home agayne in sauetie, I feare, that I shall neuer se the agayne.
I wyll (yf God permitte (come to the agayne shortely, fare well, the lorde be with the.
And with y e also.
But yet or euer I depart (for as muche as it cometh into my mynd) I wil geue the a shorte instructiē, cōcerninge y e state of matrimony, which of late I learned at a sermō [Page] declared vpon a certayne place of saynt Ihons Gospel whiche I truste shall be no lesse for thyne edifyenge and instruction, then that godly communication, which hath ben betwene vs hetherto. And the sayd sermon was grounded vpon this pece of scripture contayned in the seconde chapiter of saynte Ihon, and soundeth thus.
Iohan. ij.
Iohan. ijTHere was a mariage in Cana, a Cite of Galile, & [Page] the mother of Iesus was there. And Iesus was called also and hys disciples vnto the mariage. And when the wyne fayled, the mother of Iesus sayd vnto hym. They haue no wyne. Iesus sayd vnto her, woman, what haue I to do with the? myne houre is not yet come. His mother sayd vnto y e ministers. whatsoeuer he sayth vnto you, do it. And there were stondyng there, sixe waterpottes of stone, after the maner of the purifyeng of the Iewes, containyng two or thre firkyns a pece. And Iesus sayd vnto them: fyll the waterpottes with water. And they filled them vp to the brym, and he sayd vnto them, drawe oute [Page] nowe, and beare vnto the gouernour of y e feast. And they bare it. When the ruler of y e feaste had tasted the water, y t was tourned vnto wyne, & knewe not whence it was, (but the ministers which drewe the water knewe) He called the bryde grome, & sayde vnto hym. All men at the beginnynge, setforth good wyne, and when mē be dronke, then that whiche is worse. But thou hast kept backe y e good wyne, vntil now. This beginnyng of miracles did Iesus in Cana of Galile, & shewed hys glory, & his disciples beleued in hym.
Vvhat teacheth vs thys gospell.
Thre poyntes, first that y e [Page] state of matrimony is y e worke of god. Secondely. An example of the faith in Marie. Thirdly, an example of loue in Christe.
Howe knowest thou, y t matrimony is the worke of god?
Out of the scripture, bothe of the old Testament, and also of the newe, & by experience.
Vvhat sayth the olde testament, of matrimony?
The olde testament declareth, that god did institute, and ordeyne matrimony, in Paradyse, in the tyme of innocencye, before all synne, & toke great diligence, paynes and labour about it.
Vvhat paynes dyd he take in it?
Gene. i.Genes. i. it is wrytten, that the hygh Maiestye of God, dyd fyrst Counsel aboute the shapynge of man, sayenge, Let vs make man, in oure Image after our lykenes, Gene. ij and xviij Sapie. x Tob viij Ecclesi. xxxiv. 1. Cor xv And God shope man, euen dust from of the grounde, and breathed into hys nosetrelles the breathe of lyfe. After that he counselled also aboute the shaping of the woman, Gene. ij sayenge. It is not good that man shoulde be al one, we wyll make hym an helpe. And the lorde caused a slomber to fall vpon Adam. And he slept. And he toke one of hys rybbes, and made it a womā, and broughte her [Page] vnto hym. Then sayd Adā. Ec. xvij 1. Cor. xi This is nowe a bone of my bones, and fleshe of my fllesh She shall be called woman, because she was taken oute of man. mat. xix Mar. x Eph. v i. Cor. v. for this cause shal mā leaue hys father and hys mother, and shalbe ioyned with hys wyfe, and they shal become one fleshe. Gene. i. And God blessed them, and sayde vnto them, Growe and increase, and replenyshe the earth.
Vvorketh god this worke yet styll?
Yea verely, yet styll, as christ sayth Iohan v. Iohan v My father worketh hitherto and I worke. God causeth not onely boyes, but also wenches to be borne, not for to sinne hardely, [Page] but for an honeste and vertuous conuersacion, and for the preseruation & mayntenaunce, of all mankynde. Nowe lyke as God prouyded vnto Adam hys wyfe, without hys knowledge and helpe. Euen so doth he yet in these dayes brynge man and wyfe together, wonderfully without all theyr myndes & thoughtes. Pro. xix As it is wrytten Prouerb. xix. House & ryches may a man haue by the heritage of elders, but a discrete woman is the gyfte of the Lorde.
Vhat speaketh the newe testament of matrimony?
The newe testament sheweth that christ hath honoured y e state of matrimony [Page] and that, he went with hys disciples to the mariage in Cana of Galile, illustrynge thesame with a goodly miracle, tournynge water into wyne. To signifye thereby, y t he among faythfull maryed people wil also tourne y e water of trouble, in to wyne of ioye, yf they walke in a good conuersacion, lyue according to theyr vocacion and estate, and do that thynge whiche is godly and ryght.
Howe canst thou knowe by experience that matrimony is the worke of god?
That there in is muche paynefullnes labour and vniustines, for suche are the workes of god, that they seme [Page] alwayes vnto the olde Adā, soure, bitter, & heauy. But God hath ordeyned the same so, to thintent that mā shoulde not be ydel, and by the reason ther of fall into euil sinfull cogitacions, wordes, & workes, but that he shoulde alwayes haue occasion to worke and to do somthynge for to expel there by the euill thoughtes, wordes, & dedes.
Is then Idelnes suche an euyll thynge?
Idelnes, is an occasion of many synnes and blasphemyes, Sathan dyd no small hurte to the Christianite, when he dyd put into the popes heade, to forbidde matrimonye [Page] vnto the spiritualtye for thorough so many ydell persons hath he filled the Christianite, with synnes & abhominations, as Sodome and Gomorre.
Is then labour suche a costly thynge.
Yea forsoth, labour taketh awaye from man, many euil thoughtes, wordes & dedes, it bringeth good occupieng, and kepeth hym healthfull. It bringeth to the table a hungry stomake, and to the bedde a wery body. Therfore doth meate and drynke sauour wel vnto hym, and slepe is swete and acceptable vnto hym. And also such one fulfilleth Goddes commandement, [Page] where as he sayth. In the sweate of thy face shalt thou eate thy breade. Gen. iij
Vvhat must one do which geueth hym selfe into the estate of matrimony?
He must haue a respecte to thre thynges, to fayth, loue, and the crosse.
Vvherfore to fayth?
That he beleue, that matrimony is the worke of god, & that god is hys good father, which can and wyl prouyde hym of an honest mate. And when that is done, thē must he also thynke no further vpon other, but cōtente him [Page] selfe with her, whiche god hath sent hym,
But howe and yf there happen any tediousnes in matrimony?
Then must euery one thinke thus. Beholde, god hath geuen me thys fellowe, he knoweth well ynough, what is good & profitable for me. yf he had geuen me another it myght peraduenture be nore to my hynderaūce, then to my furtheraunce. The wyll of the lorde be done vpō me. Truely where suche thoughtes are, there can it not go amysse.
Vvherfore to the loue?
He must knowe that the Estate of matrimony is an estate of loue and peace, so y t therein the one must serue, helpe, and counseyl y e other, and that there be nothynge but seruyce, helpe and cōforte betwene them selues and after that, towardes theyr children, familye, & all men.
Howe betwene them selues?
Maryed folkes must be peaceable, frendly, & agreyng, one with another, not despisinge one another, but be true one to another faithfully serue and succour one to another in prosperite and in aduersitye, in sickenes and [Page] in health euen as God doth send it. for God made not the woman of the mannes heade, because she should not be mayster, nor yet of the fete, that she shoulde not altogether lye vnder fote. Gen. ij. But of hys syde that she shoulde be the mans helper.
Howe towardes the childrē and familie.
When god sendeth them children or familye, that thei bryng vp the same to the laude, honour, & prayse of god, to the helpe, commoditie, & conforte of theyr neyghbour yea for the welthe of the hole communalte. And there shal they fynde bothe hādes [Page] full of good workes, yea all the workes of loue, whiche God hath commaūded, may they shewe vpon theyr children and familye. God maketh of that hous, good maryed folkes, a holy hospitall an electe monastery, yea a kyngdome of Ioye, Paradise and heauen, he geueth his blessynge, and all goodnes, health and saluacion.
Howe towardes the crosse?
Maryed folkes, must knowe that God hath layde a heuy crosse vpon the state of matrimony, bothe mā & womē.
Vvhiche is the crosse of the man?
God sayd vnto Adam. Gen. iij Because thou haste herkened vnto the voyce of thy wyfe, & hast eaten of the tree concerning the whiche I commaund d the saieng, thou shalt not eate of it cursed be the grounde for thy sake, in sorrowe shalt thou eate of it all the dayes of thy lyfe. Thorne also and thystle shal it cause to growe vnto the. In the swete of thy face, shalt thou eate thy breade.
Whiche is the crosse of the woman?
God sayde vnto Eua, Gen. iij because thou hast herkened vnto the serpente, and haste eaten of the fruytes concerninge the whiche I commaūded the, that thou shouldest not [Page] eate of it. I wyll multiplye thy sorowe and thy conceyuyng. In sorrowe shalt thou brynge forth thy children, & thou shalt stoupe before thy husbande, and he shal haue the rule of the.
Is there any conforte in thys Crosse?
yes. By the crosse of the man is this conforte contayned. In the sweate of thy face shalt thou eate thy breade, tyll thou be tourned agayn into the grounde, out of the whiche thou wast taken. As though he woulde saye. The crosse shall be temporal, and shal laste no longer, then whylest thou lyuest. Also it [Page] is but layed vpon the body, and not vpon the soule. Gen. iij By the crosse of the woman standeth thys consolacyō. Thou shalt bryng forth children, albeit with sorrowe, & saynt saynt Paule sayth. i. Tim. ij. i. Tim. ij The woman was deceaued and brought the transgression into the worlde, notwithstondyng thorough bearing of children she shal be saued, yf she continue, in faythe, & loue, and holynes with discretion.
Is the worde of god also in the lyfe of matrimony?
Not onely the worde of god, but also the commandemēt, ordinaunce, and blessyng of [Page] god, an honest lyfe, a good lyfe, a good conscience, and hope of eternall lyfe. In the lyfe of the wicked, is nothynge elles, then the work, commaundement and ordinaunce of the Deuyll, theyr owne wyll, destourbyng of y e godly commaundementes, an vngracious shameful lyfe, an euil conscience, and expectacion of eternal damnation. The maried can sheppe forth bodely before god, and reioyce of theyr estate with a good conscience, I defie y e inuēted states of y e spiritualte, y t they dare be so bolde, as ones to open their mouthes before god, but they must be confounded and become dō be before god, for they cā not [Page] alledge one lettere out of the holy scripture, whereby thei myght confirme or defende their estate. yf the popes tryple crowne, the Cardinalles broade hatte, the Bisshoppes infula, the freares hode, the priestes shauen crowne, and the Nonnes clare, had such a reioysinge and grounde in the scripture, as the womēs keuerchief, and the begging bagge of the spiritualte, as the spade or pickare of Adā. good lorde, howe would they boaste, crye and reioyce, but Christ hath preuented theyr boasting, & standeth there, & saith, Mat. xv In vayn they worship me, teaching doctrines, whiche are nothyng, but mēnes preceptes.
Where by is the fayth perceyued in Marye?
Ioha. iijVvhen the wyne fayled, the mother of Iesue sayde vnto hym. They haue no wyne. The good mother careth for the gestes, and woulde fayne that al thynges were well, and done honestly, and yet doth she not praye with expressed wordes. for she thought, it nedeth not to praye. He is so good of hymselfe, y t he wyll helpe, whan he heareth that there is lacke. And this is also the nature of faythe, to aduenture al thinges vpō the mercifulnes of god.
But what answerdyd Christe geue her?
He sent her away vnkindly, and sayde vnto her, Ioha. iii woman, what haue I to do w t the, myne houre is not yet come.
Vvhat doth Mary then, doth she leaue it thus?
No, she sayth nowe first of al to the ministers, whatsoeuer he sayth vnto you do it. So certayne and sure is she, y t she beleueth, that her welbeloued sonne Christe wyll not suffer her to lacke, and euen as she beleueth so cometh it to passe.
Vvhat shall we learne hereof?
Vvhen it semeth vnto vs in our prayer, that god wyl not heare vs, then may we not yet despayre or ceasse, but we must styll go forwarde & persyste. for vnder such a taciturnite is a sure conforte hyddē, vnder suche, naye lyeth a sure, yea, for so doth god worke he helpeth no rather, then when a man thinketh, y t all confort and succour is gone. Therfore is he called. The ryght helper in necessities, which helpeth in due season
Vvhere by is the loue perceyued in Christe?
That he prouydeth here suche good wyne, at thys feast, he hath sufficiently declared [Page] by this example, that he wyl not put those in any necessite, whiche geue them selues, at his commaundement, into the state of matrimony, beleue and truste in hym, and followe theyr vocacyon, nor yet leaue them confortles. For beholde, whē the wyne fayled he made of water good wyne. Euen so, yf men dotruely and earnestly call vpon hym matrimony, he wyll also take awaye all maner of penuryes, he knoweth well ynough that in matrimony fayleth, many thynges, nowe meate & drynke, nowe rayment and shoes. Therfore, yf the maried do that thing which pleaseth God, and seke fyrste the [Page] kyngdome of god, he wyl neuer forsake them.
Geue examples of the scripture?
Who fedde the Patriarche Iacob, when he went ouer Iordan with hys staffe, and came agayne with moche people, children, cattell & goodes? Genes. xxxij Gene. xxxij. Vho fed Ioseph? whan he was solde of hys brethren, became he not by the grace of God, a lorde ouer al Egypte? Vvho fed the children of Israel in the wildernes forthy yeres? Vvho prouyded here good wyne? yea, who fedeth the hole worlde with all creatures? Doth not God it? Truely noman nedeth to refuse [Page] matrimonye or to abstayne from it for hunger or penuries sake. But let him take the matter in hande, righteously, in the feare of God, and do accordyng as hys office or occupation requyreth, let hym worke hys occupation in the name of the Lorde, put hys trust in God, & walke ryghteously in the syghte of hys neyghboure, thē shall he fynde of a trueth, that god wyl holde on hys syde so moche as he did with Iacob Ioseph, and with the Bryde and Brydegrome.
But what sayest thou, of eatynge drynkynge, deckinge and trimmynge, pypyng, playenge and daunsyng, is it [...] [Page] the worde of god in the churche. The elders toke it for a great earnest matter, namely, that they fetched there y e blessyng of God, and the supplication of the Christen congregatiō, which in dede is very necessary and requisite, in this estate. And whosoeuer taketh vpon hym the state of matrimony, nedeth well the blessynge of god, & the common prayers of the congregation. Seyng the deuyll neuer resteth here, but attempteth all maner of wayes, for to stirre vp moche mischief, and calamitie with infidelyte, aduoutrye, vnclenlynes, and all maner of wickednes. All whiche [Page] thinges God the father, & oure lorde Iesus Christe, cā and wyll hynder, and let, vnto whome be lande & prayse for euer and euer, Amen.
¶A fruteful Predication or Sermon of D. Mart. Luth. concernynge matrimony, vpon this Texte, in the Epistle to the Hebrewes, in the xiij. Chapiter.
❧Wedlocke is to be had in honour, amonge all men, and the bedde vndefyled. As for hoorekepers and aduouterers, God shall iudge them.
Matrimony hath alwayes ben estemed honourable, also amonge the heathen. THe estate of matrimony hath alwayes ben taken among discrete & vertuous mē, yea also amonge the heathen, [Page] for an honourable and laudable lyfe, for reasonable & vertuous people, haue euen of very nature a delyte in it, when they see, that two personnes which are coupled in mariage, lyue together vertuously and in vnite, brynge vp theyr children in the feare of God, kepe them to vertuous nurtour, & honesty. And that the one succoureth the other in necessities and aydeth hym with worde and dede, and wherwith so euer he can. Contrarywyse, whā men lyue, withoute the estate of matrimony, in vnclenlynes, synne, and shame. Remēber not theyr childrē, nor brynge them vp in good nourtour, & y t y e one rūneth [Page] this waye, and the other that waye, lyke noughtye packes, hauing no true loue nor faythfulnes together. Suche a dissolute lyfe is reputed, of all reasonable and honest men, euen of nature, wicked, and very pernicious.
The yō ge and rawe people despyse matrimony.Notwithstondyng mense right well, howe the yonger sorte, and the commō people falleth awaye, and abhorreth the state of matrimony as an heauy intollerable burthen. And suche wilde, careles persons, wyll alwayes more loue the dissolute and fre lyfe, then suche a paynefull, vertuous, and laudable lyfe in wedlocke. Howe be it plages and punyshmentes [Page] ouertake them nowe a dayes very sore. for besides that that such persones without wedlocke, pollute themselues with synnes wilfully, & cause God to be enemy vnto themselues, they are also punysshed with bodely plages, that not onely money and goodes, doth waste away by suche people, but also they must paye for it in their skinnes. For in suche filthy lyuinge, reigne many maner of diseases and plages, sometyme open shame, and reuilynge, somtyme also murther, & other calamityes.
Of suche examples is the worlde full, whereby god sheweth a special earnest, that he wyll haue wedlock kepte [Page] pure, and vndespised. But whereas some tyme suche tē poral correctiōs followe not. And god permitteth the wicked persons, to go after their owne wyll, and to abyde in reputacion, and healthfull body, & great goodes, Euen there is surely a worse tourne to be attended, namely, the wrath and indignation, of God in the worlde to come and the euerlastynge damnation.
Some despyse matrimony, because of great holynesLyke as nowe the madde yonge worlde abhorreth matrimony for suche free, wyllfull lyues sake. Euen so is it manifeste of the other parte, that the Deuyll hath blyndedsome in suche wyse, that they, of mere holynes, [Page] lyke as the other of mere wilfulnes, haue despised matrimony, and chosen a dissolute lyfe without wedlocke. Accordyng as Saynt Paule hath prophecyed. i. Ti. iiij i. Timo. iiij That it shall come so farre, that certeyne spirites of errour vnder the pretense of great holynes, shall forbidde matrimony. As we se by the Pope, and all hys Byshoppes, Priestes, freares & Nonnes, whiche forswere matrimony, and wyll be called spirituall people, because they lyue without wedlocke and lyue not in a carnal state, as they iudge matrimony. But in an angelicall or spirituall state, and haue called them selues alone spiritual for this [Page] cause, as though, thei which lyue in the state of matrimony, myght not be spiritual also, as well as they?
This is the occasion, because that matrimony is so common, and hath no speciall regard before the world. Therfore haue the popes blessed, or they of the spiritualtie, refused suche slyghte common lyfe, and haue taken some speciall thynge before them, whiche myght be more regarded, then that a Citesen sitteth at home with hys wyfe fyndeth hys children and familie with soure labour, and doth suche lyke thynges, accordynge to hys vocation. For thys is the nature of the worlde, whatsoeuer is common, [Page] the same doth she not regarde. Agayn whatsoeuer is straunge and not common the same doth euery man couet to haue. No man doth counte this for a special thinge, that the sunne shyneth euery daye. Exod. x But whan the thicke darkenes continued so longe in Egypte, then did they learne vndoubtedly, & fynde fulwel, that the sunne and the brightnes thereof, is a glorious thynge, and a fayre great benefite. Also we counte it for no special grace when it rayneth. i. Reg. xvij. But when there came no rayne in the kyngdome of Israell, in the tyme of Elias, for the space of thre yeres, and a halfe, then dyd they learne, that [Page] it was a great benefite.
Euen so happeneth it vnto the holy state of matrimony, amonge the Papistes also, because it is suche a common state, that euery plowe man may come to it. Therfore haue the popes Spiritualtye despised suche a commō lyfe, and haue inuented and taken vpon them, a speciall and sundry lyfe, that myght seme to be of greater estimation, before the people. As Nicolaus de lyra sayth vpon the xij. chapiter of Daniel. Vpon the .xij Chapit. of Daniel wryteth lyra of Antichriste. That Antichriste shal not regarde the loue of women for thys cause, that he maye make to hym selfe a greater apearaunce of holynes. But what good ensueth thereof, [Page] it is euident. In so muche y t by reason we shoulde learne by theyr example, y t matrymony is a glorious and an holy lyfe. for as muche as they are punyshed with dyuers abhominable and horryble synnes, euen because that they contemne wedlocke. for they haue in no point so hole, agaynste all reason, and nature misused themselues as in this poynt.
For as muche nowe, Vvherfore it is necessary to wryte of Matrymony. as the state of matrimony, is abhorred of the workemongers or ypocrytes, and rawe people in the world, & is coū ted, either for a cōmō & vnholy, or els for a hard & straight lyfe. So is it necessarye, [Page] to obtayne out of the worde of god, a right vnderstōding of matrimony, and to teache agaynst suche false opinions what god speaketh of the lyfe of matrimony. To thintēt that first the yonge people may learne, wherfore matrimony is to be taken. After that, that they may knowe also, howe they shall behaue thē selues therein. So that men abide not onely by that that the worlde speaketh & holdeth thereof with her madde sainctes. But that whiche god and hys worde, speketh therof. Albe it, that the holy scripture is full of such sentences, where in the state of matrimony is highly praysed. yet wyl we neuertheles [Page] nowe at thys tyme abyde by this sayenge. Hebre. xiij, whiche soundeth thus.
Vvedlocke is to be had in honour, amonge all men, & the bed vndefyled. As for hoore kepers, and aduouterers, God shall iudge them.
This sentence is good and shorte, whiche besydes that, The true meanyng of the sentēce. Heb. xiij that she speaketh greatly in the prayse of matrimony, & threateneth those sore, that despise matrimony, maketh also an after thynkyng, why and wherfore he wyll haue this matrimony had in such honour. Notwitbstandynge that it is so despysed and abhorred in the worlde. And y e meanyng of thys sentence is [Page] this. That wedlock is an honourable, goodly and costely thynge. To thintent that all they which are the rein, shoulde holde and counte theyr lyues, for a noble, honourable, and goodly garnyshynge. Appeare it before the worlde as it wyll, and y e worlde speake of it what she wyll.
Thys godly iudgement of matrimony, as euery man mayse, soundeth farre other wyse than the worlde hath imagined thereof. for yf the worlde dyd counte matrimony so precious and honourable, she woulde not flee from it, and lyue without wedlocke. But lyke as men haste them selues thitherwarde [Page] where they loke for some good costely thynges. Euen so shoulde they also snatche after wedlock, with loue and ioye, and not defende themselues so from it with hande and fote as the wilde dieres agaynst the dogges. for that the worlde doth so spurne at kycke at it, now ymaginyng thys, now that is altogether a sygne, y t she neyther knoweth Goddes worde, concernyng matrimonye, nor yet beleueth the same, or els she woulde applye her selues a lytel otherwyse to it.
But what the occasion is, y t the worlde thus spurneth at the state of matrimony is partly touched before, That nomā wil gladly be bounde, [Page] and feareth that it myght succede vnluckely. Therfore shall it be necessary that we also here in this parte, seke, and declare the occasyon or cause: wherfore the holy scripture boasteth and prayseth wedlock so, highly & honourably. And specially shoulde the Christians well remember and ponder suche occasions and causes. To thin tēt that they myght mete with the worlde, and be able to defende matrimony agaynste the euyll speakynges of the worlde.
So is nowe the first occasion, that it maye be proued by the worde of god, that matrimony was instituted of God hymselfe, and planted [Page] in oure nature. Accordynge as the same is clearly described in the fyrst Boke of Moses. And Christe speaketh in the newe Testament. Mat. xix. He that made man at the beginnynge, made them man and woman, and sayd. for thys cause shall a man leaue father & mother, & shall cleaue vnto hys wyfe. Againe sayth he, whatsoeuer cometh together by the waye of matrimony, the same hath God coupled together &c.
Let thys be vnto euerye man a glorious and greate reioysynge, and prayse of matrimony, that it is not a worke of man wrought by hys owne wyll. But the worke of God. vnto the whiche god [Page] hymselfe hath created man. So that a couple of wedded folkes, before the face of God, with al trueth may boaste them selues of this, that they are in an estate, which is acceptable vnto God, whiche God hymselfe hath instituted and plāted in nature. and whylest they lyue in suche estate, that they lyue in the worke, yea also in y e righte and proper pleasure or delyte of God.
The papistes cā not reioyse of their state before GodThis reioysyng hath not the Pope nor hys heape. For they can shewe no where, y t God cōmaunded thē to lyue withoute wedlocke. Vvherfore then the contrary parte followeth, whylest they continue withoute wedlocke, [Page] that they lyue withoute and agaynste the worde, wil commaundement, and pleasure of god, but in theyr own wyll, which neuer can please God. Therfore when thei haue aduersite, euen as thei do deserue, then is it vnpossible that they can haue the conforte, which the wedded men haue, whiche can admonyshe God in all maner of aduersities and troubles and saye.
O Lorde god, The prayer of the maryed vnto God. thys & another aduersite presseth me. And thou knowest, that suche trouble happeneth vnto me and cometh vpon me, euen in thesame state, whiche thou dyddest shape and [Page] institute in Paradyse with man. Therfore helpe, that we in this life instituted, shapen, and entretayned by the, may be deliuered of this and that trouble, and aduersitie &c. With suche a prayer dare the maryed men come before God, where as the other lyue in their owne deuotion contrary to the worde and wil of God, and therfore they loke for no conforte, neither can they praye a ryght vnto God.
Therfore when the Pope, and hys vnmaried sorte, laude and prayse muche theyr monkerie and Celibate lyfe. Thē laude and prayse thou moche more thys lyfe of matrimony, whereon hangeth [Page] thys gloryous name & tittel, that it is a godly lyfe, shapen & comuaunded of God, and hys worde, whiche no freare nor priest shal be able at any tyme to boaste of his Celibate lyfe.
Thys is nowe the fyrst, & also the greatest occasyon, y t wedlocke, as the text sayth, is to be had in honoure. for as there is no thynge withoute nor aboue God, euen so can there also be nothynge more excellēt nor better vpō earth, then that whiche he hymselfe dyd shape and ordeyne. As the texte maketh mention in the fyrste boke of Moyses. Gene. i. And God sawe euery thyng that he had made, and beholde it was exceding [Page] good. Amonge these shapen thynges which were all excedynge good, is also wedlocke. The celebate lyfe is not amonge them, but the Deuyll hath inuented it, yf mē wyl holde it for a goddes seruyce, and compel the people thereto, as the Pope doth.
The other cause is, that god hath not onely instituted matrimonye. God hath specially blessed matrimony. But also he hath geuen his blessyng, therevnto. The same blessing standeth not onely barely in that, that god geueth childrē for there be also children borne oute of wedlocke. But y e god hath a delyte and pleasure in the ryght children, & in the hole confederation, & geueth grace, that they be [Page] well brought vp, well nourysshed and preserued. Therfore setteth the .Cxxviij. Psalm. Cxxviij psal me also this among the blesssynges of the godfearynge people which lyue in wedlocke. That they eate of the labours of their handes, and shall se theyr childers children. That is, godfearynge people lyuinge in wedlocke shal haue this blessynge, to theyr sustentation and children that they shal remayne and prospere. Contrary to the whiche, in the Celibate lyfe, money and goodes vanyshe and waste awaye, and all maner of calamitie foloweth.
Thys shoulde also by reason moue vs, that we myght [Page] gette lust and loue towardes thys state, Vvherfore there is many tymes in wedloc littel prosperite and helth. seynge we fynde therein not onely the wyl of god, but also al maner of blessynges. And there must nedes be smal felicitie, & health loked for, amonge those that despyse suche conforte and promyse of God, and preferre theyr fre and wylful lyfe. It is also to be feared, leste the wrath of God myght be so kyndled agaynste those y t do long continue in suche despisynge, that although thei should at the last geue them selues to the state of matrimony, they shoulde neyther haue prosperite nor helth. Euen as it cometh to passe oftentymes, y t men through vngratiousnes and other [Page] vnhappynes in youth, without wedlocke deserue & cause, that they haue but fewe good daies in wedlocke, and that bothe the woman and the children fare amisse. for as it is mentioned before, God wil execute suche iudgement vpon the state of Matrimony, that all they shall be punysshed, that lyue in vnclenlynes, and geue occasion of offence. Therfore shal the yong people prepare thē selues by tymes towardes it, and kepe themselues in the feare of God, and in clenlynes, To thintent that thei themselues do not hynder & kepe backe y e blessyng, which God hath ioygned with matrimony.
The greatest sainetes that euer lyued (fewe excepte) were waryedThe thyrde cause, y t wedlocke is to be had in honour, is this, that in thys state for the moost parte the greatest sainctes haue ended theyr lyues, as the hole old and newe testament withnesseth. But yf thou wilt knowe, why they haue all lyued in wedlocke, I can shewe thy no better nor surer reason, thā that all Godly men, haue alwayes ordered and kepte themselues after the wyll and worde of god. And for as moche as god hymselfe hath instituted and commaunded Matrimony. So haue they as obedyent Persons, which had nede of suche ordinaunce of god, geuen thē selues [Page] willingly and gladly into the state of matrimony for gods and their nedes sake. Not regardyng, that the worlde and the common people loued more the fre and wilfull lyfe.
Nowe, this is not a smal reioysynge, that whosoeuer is coupled in wedlocke, may say with a fre and bolde conscience, that he is euē in the same state, wherin the Patriarkes, Prophetes, the holy Apostles and other sainctes most commonly haue lyued, whereas contrarywyse the celibate lyfe, was fyrst begonne of certayne heretykes, because they would make them selues thereby [Page] a sundry pretense and colour of holynes. The pope a father of al hipocrisye. And was afterwarde confirmed of the Pope as of the Archefather of all hypocrisye, and boasted for an holy lyfe.
He that wil be a Christian, and can not lyue chaste, oughte to marye.For as concernyng Iohn the Baptiste, and other suche lyke, which for the kyngdome of heauens sake, as Christe doth call it, dyd abstracte thēselues from wedlocke, it hath a sundry meanyng. We speake here in generall, of all them, that wyll be Christians, and can not lyue chaste out of wedlocke. Vnto those it is very confortable that they se before thē examples of so many greate saynctes, which haue all lyued in wedlocke, and haue [Page] gone before vs in this holy ordre. Truely this is a great prayse to wedlocke. for who woulde not rather be found among suche a companye of holy men, in lyke lyfe estate and conuersatiō with them, then by the Pope, and hys hole flocke, whiche in thys & in other affayres lyue so manifestly agaynst Goddes cō maundement, and the examples of hys saynctes.
The fourth occasyon, wherfore wedlocke is to be had in honour and reuerence, and not in contempte, is this. That without wedlocke, To lyue withoute wedlocke escapeth not without synne. we can not well lyue withoute synne, and in a good Conscience. for thus sayth Christe, wheras he speaketh [Page] of them that lyue withoute wedlocke. mat. xix i. cor. vij Al men can not cō prehende thys sayenge. And saint Paule commaundeth, To auoyde fornication, let euery man haue hys wyfe. For through the original synne is the nature of man weakened and destroyed in such wyse, that very fewe mē out of wedlocke cā lyue in a good conscience. Seing then that matrimony is a remedy whiche god himself thereto hath shapen and ordeyned, according as his worde declareth that we stande in a good conscience, and maye lyue chast. Vvho wil be so rude & vndiscrete that he wil repute this estate vnholy, as the Pope doth?
But as it is aboue specifyed, he hath receyued hys rewarde. And to thintent that euery man should esteme the papistes for holy menne, thei haue forsworne Matrimony and fal thereby into the greatest synne, and shame, in so moche that of their abhominable lyuynge the hole worlde doth syng and saye. Thei are well serued, why do they so frowardly despise the creation and ordinaūce of god? And we must also for this cause haue wedlocke in honour and in hygh reputacyō, and thanke god highly for thys meane, whiche serueth vs for thys ende, that we pollute not ourselues through horedome and suche other [Page] vnclenlynes, and so fal into the fearfull Iudgement of God, whereof we shal entreate more hereafter.
Vvedlocke is ful of good workesThe fyrste and laste cause is thys. That wedlocke also therfore is to be had in honour, because it is suche a lyfe, which, yf it be kept accordingly, is thoroughout full of good workes. for euen the loue which is betwene man and wyfe, is one of the speciall good workes, whiche God hath commaunded and left remaynynge in nature, and helpeth with hys holy Goost that we do perfourme them a ryght, & fainte not in thē. Therfore exhorteth also the holy Saynt Paule to suche loue whereas he sayth. ye [Page] menne loue youre wyues, & be not bitter vnto them. Coloss. iij. Colo. iij Ephe. v And to the Ephesians in the .v. menne ought to loue their wyues as their own bodies. Therfore whosoeuer taketh sure holde on such loue, & suffereth neyther noysome lustes, wrath, nor anye other thinge to tourne himselfe awaye from it, doth a ryght good worke and acceptable vnto god. for here is hys worde, which commaundeth the thys thynge. Thou shalt loue thy wyfe, and not loue flightely. mat. xix But as christ repeteth the same agayne in the gospell. for thys cause shall a man leaue father & mother, and cleane vnto his wyfe.
The matrimonyal loue is a goddes seruyce.Vvhere are nowe the shamefull Papistes, whiche abhorre wedlocke as a carnall estate, as though God could not be serued in hys kynde of lyfe. Notwithstandyng that the loue, without the which wedlocke can not endure, is a greater and hyer goddes seruice, which god, as we heare, requyreth so earnestly of vs.
The loue of the parentes towardes theyr children is also a Gods seruyce.Moreouer the loue and faythfulnes, whiche the Parentes bestowe vppon theyr children, namely, that they nourysshe, clothe and bryng them vp in labour and in the feare of god, kepe thē to learnynge, take heede to them & kepe them in theyr sickenes, watching, listing, laieng, couering, [Page] washing thē & whatsoeuer there is more of suche lyke, is also a costely worke & acceptable vnto god, whiche the maryed must vse and do dayly and hourely, & almost euery moment. Nowe should we remember a ryght and lerne, such oure owne lyfe & conuersation, that these are before God mere good workes. Then should we not onely be so moche the lustier to matrimony, and to such workes, although they are also paynefull. But also pacienter confortabler, and bolder although somtyme it prospered not all of the beste. for yf the maryed remember and ponder theyr estate, and theyr lyfe a right, and [Page] ordre themselues godly therein, then must nedes theyr hertes, eyes, handes, & fete sticke full of good and holye workes euery houre.
But there lyeth that mischief, where of I haue spoken before, that bycause these workes are so generall, & smal, they are not regarded. Agayne, whatsoeuer apeareth glorious, and braggeth furth boldely although in it selfe it be not worth a strawe yet is it taken for honourable and greate. As we see by the Popes ceremonyes, and hys goddes seruice, notwithstandyng that the least worke in wedlocke, is better in it selfe, then all theyr goddes seruice. for in wedlocke do [Page] men abyde in the worde and commaundement of God. And god wyll that the one shall gladly serue the other euen from the herte.
This is done in wedlocke without ceassynge. The seruice of the maried one to another are good workes yf a child be sicke, then are the elders sick and sory for hym, yf the man be sicke, then is the wyfe encombred euen so sore as though it were her owne smarte, or disease. There is the diligence, care, faythfulfulnes and loue moost purest and from the botome of the herte, and it is not tedyous vnto them, for they delyte & long styll after thys howe y e one myght conseyll, helpe, & amende the other, and withstande the aduersitye. Again [Page] wheras it succedeth prosperously in trauaylyng of childe, or otherwyse in theyr owne danger, or necessite of the children. There is a harty, pure, and perfecte ioye. It cā not go so wel with the one but the other reioyseth of it euen at the herte and wysseth vnto hym moche more. Vvho wilsaye nowe, y t were as y t hertes do agree so goodly together, in ioye, and in heuynes, that there are not mere good workes of loue? Contrarywyse in the Celibate lyfe doth God neyther delite in loue, nor yet in woo. Althoughe in it selfe it is a strawen loue, whiche euery houre is broken and rent a sunder of one worde onely, [Page] when the one doth but loke awrye vpon the other.
These good workes of wedlocke remayne at home in the housse, The state of matrimony geueth discreteper sones to all estates. among them that be maried, and their childrē. After them followe fyrst of al, the ryght great good workes, that oute of thys estate, as out of a well sprynge, come all maner of personnes, by whome laude and people are gouerned and defended, the churches prouyded of preachers, and other ministers and all offyces in the worlde, and in the kyngdome of oure Lorde Christe are executed.
Forseyng specially in wedlocke the childrē are nouryshed [Page] and brought vp to the feare honoure, and glorye of god. So must it nedes be graunted, that wedlocke is occasiō, and beginnynge of all suche benefites. Notwithstandyng that many wilfull persons do growe vp amonge them. The faulte thereof is not in wedlocke, but in those wicked vngodly personnes that wyl not order themselues in wedlocke, accordyng to their bounden duetye, for whosoeuer doth begynne it in the name of god, he shall also prospere in bryngyng vp of children, and in other thynges.
In wedlocke is much labour ād trauayl.But that men will saye. In wedlocke are many maner of encombraunces, sorrowes, daūgers, & heuinesses, [Page] from the which men shall be free out of wedlocke, where as euery man hath no more to care for, but hys owne boby only. Nowe let it be so, yet ought thys occasion to feare no Christen man from the state of matrimony. For first although thou werest vnmaryed. yet for all that shalt thou not escape all fre, for thou must neuerthelesse auē ture and suffer all maner of aduersityes. Whan any hynderaunce happeneth vnto y t, somtyme in thy body, and lyfe sōtyme in thyne honour and goodes. And suche a crosse shal be so moche to heuyer for the, yf thou be out of wedlocke and alone, as the holy scripture sayth. Wo be vnto [Page] the man, which is alone, for yf he fall, there is no man to helpe hym vp agayne.
Secondarely. All be it y t in wedlocke there is more daunger sorrowe and vexation, then elles where yet ought not to matrimony for thys cause to be despysed & eschued. For it is profitable & good for vs, that God cometh vpon vs with hys crosse, and that we be proued al maner of waies, for oute of tēptatiō and probacion, do we stande in great daūger. Vve waxe sturdy, and contrary to the worde of God colde & slouthfull to praier and other good workes, for as muche nowe as wedlocke it doth ful now with the woman, nowe with [Page] the children, nowe with the familye, wedlocke is the scoolehous of the christians, nowe with the occupyenge, and other al maner of necessities & perilles wedlocke is vnto the Christians as a Scoole, wherein they are godly instructed, that in tribulatiō and aduersitie they faynt not, nor be discouraged. But open theyr hertes to god, pray & desyre help
This is also a good worke, wedlock causeth to praye and to trust in God. whereunto wedlocke geueth occasyon very often, for euen for thys cause, y t much trouble & calamite falleth in wedlocke, the maryed mē, yf thei be elles godfearyng & ryght Christen men, are dryuen to prayer, that they praye earnestly, truste and hope onely to the helpe and grace [Page] of God. Vvhen then such hope is perfourmed, euen then do there sprynge vp other & good holy workes, that men do thanke God for hys helpe and grace, that men prayse hys bountifulnes, and conforte other men, lykewyse in the same. All these thynges are mere goddes seruices, & exceding good workes, which wedlocke ministreth dayly vnto our handes, that the fayth and prayer ceasse not. But must be continually occupyed, whylest nowe ioye, nowe sorrowe, then necessitye, helpe and delyueraunce appeare, whiche eyther geue occasyon to thanke, or elles to praye.
Therfore sayth the text [Page] here well and truely, y t wedlocke is a noble honourable & costly lyfe, which god hath not onely ordeyned, and endued with hys blessyng, and also all sainctes haue praised with theyr lyues and conuersations, as a gloryous worke of god, leauyng vs an example. But wedlocke is also to be praysed for thys cause, y t it sticketh thoroughout full of good workes, as is nowe rehersed. Matrimony is full of good workes That a maried mā and a maryed woman, cā do nothynge within the hous of so small reputacion, belongynge to the housse kepyng, or bringynge vp of children, but that it is a holy worke, & acceptable to God, and that it is done after the word, wil [Page] and ordinaūce of God, wherfore prosperite & welth must nedes be accompanyed w t it.
Christ honoureth the mariage hymselfe. Iohā. iijTherfore hath Christ him selfe matrimony in such honour, that he cometh personally, w t his dearly beloued mother and Apostles to the mariage in Cana, in Galile, and there manifesteth hymselfe with a glorious miracle by tournyng water into wyne. To thintent that he there by woulde signifye bothe, y t he loueth the state of matrimony, & that he wil geue his blessynge therein. This blessynge shal alwayes remaine among the maried, as farre as they as the C.xxviij. Psalm. Cxxviij Psalme sayth, feare God, & walke in his waies. Forwhereas [Page] men wil despise the worde of God, lyue in synne wittingly, and vse not the loue, which in especiall ought to be betwene man and wyfe. But wyl chyde and brawle, one with another fyght and vse all maner of frowardenes. There is it no marueyll that in the stede of the blessing, foloweth infelicite, and all maner of calamitie. for what goodnes is there to be hoped for, where as no feare of God is, yea where God is refused, and thorough many maner of synnes the dore is bolted for him & hys blessynges?
Therfore sayth not the texte here so slightly, y e wedlock [Page] is to be had in honoure and pryce. Vvhat the vndefyled bedde is But he addeth also thereunto thys worde, and the bedde vndefyled. Vvhereby he wil set furth in picture, howe wedlocke shall be kepte, whiche he hath praysed so highly. And first he forbiddeth vtterly the ryght defylynge of the bedde in wedlocke, among the Christiās, that men beware of horedome & aduoutry, as he doth call it hereafter. for thys is the grossest and greatest defylyng of the bedde, wherby the laudable and honorable state of matrimony is polluted, and the ordinaunce of God diuided. And occasion is geuen, to all aduersitye, here bodely, and here after [Page] perpetually.
Moreouer it maye also be called defilynge of the bedde, Other defylynges of the bedde of matrimony whatsoeuer geueth occasion, that the hertes betwene man and wife be withdrawen the one from the other, and are moued to dissention, hatred and other vnkynde conuersacion. for out of this foloweth commonly the grosse defilinge whereof we haue spoken a littel before. yf nowe man and wyfe wyl kepe their bedde pure & cleane as hath ben sayd, thē must they eschewe all occasions, whereby they myght be moued to frowardenes & to displeasure. Not be wilfull nor arrogant, not interpretate euery thynge for the worste. [Page] But the one must beare w t the other, and suffer a word, not onely to entretayne frēdshyppe and amitye, But also bycause we knowe that it is the wyl and pleasure of god, and that the worde and cō maundement of God requyreth the same of vs. for as soone as the hertes are bittered the one agaynste the other, So hath the Deuyl founde a holl ready, that withoute any labour he can rente matrimony a sunder agayne, and put it to trouble, in so muche that also the bodyes are separated.
Therfore, here muste be vsed the discretion betwene man and wyfe, where of S. Peter speaketh .i. i. Pet. iij. Petri. iij. [Page] That the men shoulde dwell with theyr wyues according to knowledge, geuynge vnto them honour as vnto the weaker vessell, that theyr prayers be notletted thorough stubbernes and bitternes. for it is the offyce of a man, as of the heade that he shall not rule Tyrannously, but discretely, accordynge to reason, and somtyme wynke and beare with the weakenes whiche specially reygneth in the woman kynde, considerynge theyr fraylnes, and not theyr iniquyte or wilfulnes.
Contrarywyse it shal also be the womās part, Exhortatiō to the women. to knowledge suche theyr naturall [Page] weakenes, and suffer thesame not to moche. But refrayne themselues with all diligence, y t not thorough much and immoderate repetinge, the husband be moued to iuste anger. An amiable worde and obedyent stylnes, maye quenche muche debate, and hatred, whereas elles, out of pratynge and murmuryng agayne, there myght followe anger and strypes, & besydes that al mischiefe.
Where nowe these two poyntes are betwene man & wyfe, Two principall poyntes of the maried. that thei be chaste and circumspecte, and frēdly one to another in worde & dede. There is wedlocke, as the Epistle to y e Ebrewes in thys place doth call it, a noble [Page] worthy and honourable conuersation, where in not onely men of vnderstondynge do delyte, but also God hymselfe in heauen, with all hys angels and sayntes. But whereas there is a faute in eyther of them, that is to saye, that eyther through aduoutry and hooredome the bedde of matrimony is defyled, or elles by the reason of vnkynde, and wilde conuersacion and dwellynge together, the hertes are moued one agaynst another, there is it not to be feared, that God wyl come as a iudge, & punyshe suche vngodlynes and inordinate lyuynge. for here is it written, as for whorekepers and aduouterers, [Page] God shall iudge them.
For as muche nowe as the Deuyll specially seketh betwene man and wyfe to moue them, eyther to horedome, or at the least to sowe discorde & variaunce betwene them, we ought not onely to fyght dayly agaynst this temptation, with an earnest prayer vnto God, and to seke remedy at hys hande. But also to kepe & vse oure selues there to w t al diligence, y t we our selues geue none occasion vnto suche crafty worke, & pretē se of the deuyl. for this is not the smalest parte of the godly blessyng, where such dwellynge together in wedlocke, is preserued in continuall vnitye and amitye.
And the maried nede not themselues, The maryed couple shulde not make their state bitter themselues by vngentel behaue oure or wordes to geue occasyon of malyce or euyll wyll betwene them. for they shall fynde euery daye occasyon ynough, vnsought and vnloked for, where by they shall be moued and prouoked to indignation, hatred cursynge and other vngratiousnes. So that they shall haue alwayes ynough to do, for to resiste and let the Deuyll of hys purpose, bothe by prayer and also by circumspecte discretion.
Therfore is it a good and godly ordinaunce, that men wysshe vnto the newe maryed coupple, the blessynge of God before the hole [Page] churche, and make a commō supplication for them, that they may begynne the state of matrimony in the name of God, and that it may prospere with thē. The cō gregation shoulde pray for the newe maryed couples for to bye this blessynge, yf it were to selle, men shoulde spare no money But nowe doth it the churche without money, neuertheles some men be so rude, that they woulde rather be without it. But we maye let them alone. for thei that are Christians, wyll so moche the bolder geue themselues into the state of matrimony, euen for thys common prayers sake.
For wedlocke, yf the holy bedde remayne vndefyled, is an honourable & excellent [Page] estate, for as moche as God hymselfe hath ordeyned and instituted it, and also geuen hys blessyng therevnto, and in general the Examples of al sainctes do teache vs this lyfe, where in we haue euery houre aboundauntly, al maner of occasions to serue god and our neyghbour, as we haue heard before.
Yf nowe any mā thorough thys honourable predicatiō will not be moued to the state of matrimony, The aduouterers ād hoorekepers god shal iudge them let hym be moued yet by thys, that the texte speaketh wish manifest wordes, of thē that lyue oute of wedlocke, or otherwyse in vnclenlynes. The aduouterers and hoorekepers shall god iudge. for here doest thou [Page] heare, althoughe there were no man in earth that knewe such vnclenlynes of the, or coulde punysshe the same, that yet thou shalt not escape. But thou must come before the iudgement of god, and he shall iudge the accordyng as he fyndeth the. And thus sayth saynt Paule, i. Cor vi i. Cor. vi. Be not deceaued, for neither fornicatours, neither aduoutrers shall inherite the kyngdome of heauen.
Here doth he pretely touche the thoughtes, whiche sticke in many men, whiche thynke that it is not a speciall synne, to lyue oute of wedlocke, and yet to vse vnclenlynes, Accordyng as we se, y t the world thoroughout coū teth [Page] this synne but smal, but wilt thou knowe, yf men wil not be conuerted, what the ende shall be: Then herken to thys. Thou shalt not inheryte the kyngdome of God. Thys shal be the iudgement of God, ouer the aduouterers and fornicatours.
Nowe remēber thou, what thou shalt kepe, when thou haste loste the kyngedome of God. Therfore let euery mā be ware of thys iudgement of God, and take hede in tyme, that he may amende his lyfe, and eschue vnclēlynes. Otherwyse, although there followed no temporal correction, yet shall not the iudgement of God be left oute. for there is dubble synne, [Page] that men eschue matrimony for a tryfle, and defyle thē selues with synne the lōger the more contrary to the wil of God. There vpon must nedes followe the iudgement of god, for here is none other meane nor coūsayl, but that thou leaue suche vnclenlynes, and geue thy selfe into thys state of wedlocke. And so not onely prayse this state hygh and honourable, with wordes, but also with the dede, and kepe the bedde of matrimony vndefyled, through chastite, and gentell conuersation and dwellynge together.
Thys be sayde for a warnynge, and instruction, not onely for the yonge peoples [Page] sake, whiche yet shal come to the state of mariage. But also for their sakes, that are in wedlock all ready. That thei bothe may knowe, wherfore they shall take wedlock, and howe they shall behaue thē selues therein Godly. To the intent that God be with them, with hys blessynge, ād that they maye haue a good conscience therby, which God graunt vnto vs all.
AMEN.
☞A briefe Exhortation vnto the maryed couple, howe they shall behaue themselues in wedlocke
Vvherfore god dyd institute wedlocke. YE knowe oute of y e worde of god, whē ce matrimony hath hys beginnyng, namely, that it is an ordinaūce of god, that the man and woman shoulde dwel together, and spende theyr lyues one with another. fyrste for thys cause, that by thys meanes the synne and the flesh shoulde be letted, and y t we might lyue in a good conscience. for god hath sharply prohibited horedome & vnclenlynes, & punished the same greuously, as we se in all historyes & by daily experience. Secondely also for thys cause, that the [Page] kyngdome of god, & y • church may be entre tained, not onely by thys, that god through hys blessyng sendeth childrē in wedlocke, But also, that the children are educated of the maryed men, & brought vp in the worde and feare of god, to thintēt that y e knowledge of god, and the ryghte goddes seruyce may alwayes come from the one, vpon the other, by inheritaunce, and by the meanes thereof, many maye come to saluation.
Wherfore, God so to be thanked for matrimony seynge wedlocke serueth agaynst synne, & for the increassynge of the kyngdome of god, So ought ye, and all they that come to the State of matrymonye, [Page] to thanke god with al youre hertes, for thys grace, that he hath geuen you such a herte and mynde, that ye haue no lust to vnclenlynes, and synne, as the vngodly worlde. But feare god, and desyre to eschue all vnclenlynes: for thys is a great grace, seynge thys example is manifest, that Sathan hath so many maner of snares, where by he kepeth the hertes, y t they out of wedlocke contynue in synne, and in an euyl conscience. But what iudgement shal followe them that vse suche vnclenlines, declareth saint Paule .i. i. Cor. vi Corin. vi. Neyther fornicatours, neyther aduouterers shal inherite the kyngdome of god, [Page] from thys fearful sentence, are ye (thankes be to God) now escaped, yf ye kepe your selues together, and dwell together, accordynge to the ordinaunce of God.
But yet ye shal not be with out feare: the wicked enemye layeth wayte, for mā and wyfe. for the wicked enemye, seynge, he coulde not hynder your hertes, & youre Godly purposes, He shall vndertake and attempte other wayes, to come to you, and to diuide suche matrimonial dwellyng together, or at the least, to make it heauy & paynefull. And thys is specially hys pretense, to studye howe he may plucke the hertes awaye the one from the other that euen as nowe ye haue luste & loue one to another, [Page] he maye rayse lothsomnes & enemitie.
And the deuyl fyndeth by vs a great aduauntage, for this hys purpose. For there to are we vsed euen frō oure youth, through synne, that eueryone woulde fayne haue ryght, counte hys brayne for the beste, and be vnwillinge to geue place, or forbeare the other. But thys serueth not for an vnite, but for discorde, wherfore the maryed couple must beware for it, with all diligence, and earnestly praye vnto God for his holy Gost, that he wyll so gouerne them, and so knytte theyr hartes together, that the wicked enemy may not sowe hys sede betwene [Page] them, and separate the hertes a sunder.
Suche a prayer is hyghly and very necessarye, They that lyne in wedlocke must praye God that thei maye lyue in vnitie. that it maye go so dayly with them, that are in wedlocke, and that alwayes the one praye for the other, that it wyll please God, to defende them frō suche enormyties. But because that there are fewe men, that remembre thesame, and yet fewer that do it, and praye earnestly, Therfore do we se, howe the Deuyll hath his playe, that there are very fewe of such men, amonge whome hatred chydynge, cursynge, brawlynge, reuylynge, and fightynge is not vsed.
And they se not, that the Deuyll woulde fayne haue it so, and that it cometh by hys instigation, or elles they woulde not onely praye agaynst it, but also endeuour themselues to resiste the subtyll assaultes of the Deuyll, and to geue no rowme to wrath, yf it would stirre thē to brawlynge or to fyghtynge, for it is the ryghte worke of the Deuyll: whiche yf mē wyll followe, the matter wil waxe worse and worse, and one myschief will brynge in another.
For thys is true withoute doute, that through such beginnynge, the Deuyll bryngeth it to that passe, that at the last, the hertes separate [Page] them selues one from another, and that the loue vanyssheth awaye quyte. There must nedes followe then a wretched lyfe, where as a couple should be together, & yet cā not endure together, & yet is thys plage vety common in the world. But whē ce cometh she? The people regard not the enemye the deuill, and therfore they praye not, that god wyll withstonde and resyste hym. And thei themselues knowe not, whā they frette, crake and face, and wyl not forbeare one another, that they do but geue rowme to the Deuyl, for to accomplyshe hys purpose. Now yf thou wylt he defended from suche mischief, and [Page] desyrest to possesse a peaceable, amiable, & agreable wedlocke with thy bedfellowe, Then learne to praye vnto God for it, that it will please hym, through the holy Gost to rule your hartes, to with stande Sathan, and to kepe you in vnitie and concorde. Next vnto thys prayer, must also be vsed a synguler diligē ce, Wherof Saynt Peter teacheth i. i. Pet. iij Pet. iij. Ye menne, sayth he, dwell with your wyues accordynge to knowledge, geuing honour vnto the wife, as vnto y e weaker vessel & as vnto thē y t are heyres also of the grace of lyfe, Vvhat the man ought to do. y t your prayers be not let. This commaūdemēt goeth specially vpō the man, y t he shal begynne, [Page] and [...]e to it, y t vnitie & loue maye be entretayned in wedlocke & thys is brought to passe [...]n this wyse, y t he rule with discretion, and not with extremitie take the woman a [...] the worste in euerye thynge. A good cause why? For the woman is a weake creature, and hath not suche a courage nor stronge herte as a man: They are sone tempted, and pricked at the herte, and are sooner moued to myrth and sorrowe, then the mēne. This ought a mā to consyder, and be not hard agaynst them, but somtyme he must dissemble somewhat and wynke at a faute, & help it with a fayre worde,
But thys discretion taketh [Page] the worlde for a wyuysh thinge, and thincketh that it becommeth well, a man to be angry, and to fyghte wel S. Peter seeth well ynough, Howe men shoulde geue honour vnto womē what becommeth the man best, and wherein he oughte to be moost diligent. He biddeth not to stryke. Vse discretion sayth he. And that whiche is more, he biddeth the to geue her, her honour, that is, to fauour & forbeare her for thys cause, that she is a weake vessel, she hath a faint weake and fearfull herte, & is brought alofte and moued to wrath with one worde. Learne thys and forbeare, therewith shalt thou not onely kepe vnitie, But also ouercome the herte. For with fayre [Page] wordes is alwayes more gotten amonge reasonable tolkes, then with strypes.
But he that wyl nothyng forbeare a woman, but wyll be alwayes cursyng and fightinge, and doynge suche lyke thynges, what good doth the same? He helpeth the Deuyll to accomplyshe his worke, that where as vnitie, loue and ioye ought to be, euē there groweth enemitie, hatred and enuye. Thys is in it selfe a heauy case, and douteles the greatest inconuenience, that can come to mā nes hande in worldely matters.
But there is yet another let, Discorde and malice hyndereth prayer. whereby prayer is letted or hyndered. For wheresoeuer [Page] is discorde, there can be no ryght prayer made. For the Pater noster, or prayer goeth not for vs alone, but for the hole worlde. And specially we comprehende there in, that we wil forgeue them that trespasse agaynste vs, as we woulde that god shoulde forgeue vs. Howe can suche contentious persons do? Howe cā they pray for other, where the one is so bittered agaynst the other? And whē the prayer for thē and other is lost, what conforte and defence wyll they haue then? Seynge, we can none other wyse, but by prayer escape from the Deuyll. And also haue no conforte and helpe in all maner of necessities, [Page] whereon we maye take holde.
Lo, into suche temporal & spirituall calamities doest thou brynge thy selfe, when thou wylt be vndiscrete, and vse no discretion. But euen as madde horses, stryke and byte aboute the. Saynt Peter doth not bidde it the: But the Deuyll doth loue it: therfore beware of it: Thou cāst be a man well ynough, although thou stryke not so aboute the, and sufferest of thy bedfellowe a worde or two. Thys ought the man to do, and it is acceptable vnto God, and it bringeth to man and wyfe to thēselues al goodnes, and al maner of blessynges into their hous.
But what shal the womā do? Shall she abuse such forbearyng and discrete cōuersation, and do alwaies what she lusteth? No, thys were al so contrary to the commaundement of God. For saint Peter also preacheth vnto thē on thys wyse. i. Pe. iij. Howe the wyues ought to vse themselues Let the wiues be insubiection to theyr husbādes. To be in subiectiō, is not, to rule & cōmaūde. This ought a woman to do ouer her familye and children. But to her husband she must be in subiection, suffer to be commaunded, and followe. Thys is also a great poynt, whiche to concorde helpeth very much, whan a woman loketh on her husbande, endeuoureth herselfe to knowe [Page] and accomplishe his wil, and doeth that thing, which she knoweth to be hys pleasure. And eschueth that thynge, which she knoweth, that he loueth not. For by thys doth she wynne her husbandes herte, that he hath luste and ioye to come home agayne to hys wyfe. Cōtrarywyse whan the wyues be disobedyent, self mynded, frowarde, the man abhorreth hys owne hous, thynkynge, whē he cometh into the housse, y t he must go to the battail and amonge hys enemyes.
But nowe it is not well possible, but that somtyme suche thynges must nedes be sene. For we are al frayl and vnparfect, specially the women, [Page] more then the mē: therfore the woman must beware, that she continue not in obstinacie and disobedience. But knowledge her trespace and saye, Good husbande, this and that worde escaped me in myne anger. I praye you, forgeue it me, I wyll do it no more. Thys ought the women to do in especial, because they are moost fauty.
The wiues must be to subiection to theyr husbandes.And to thys doynge shall not onely the commodity dryue them, that by the reason thereof they myght lyue in quiete and vnite: But also the strayghte commaundement of God: Wherof saynt Paule speaketh. Ephe. v Ephesi. v where he sayth. Vvemen submitte your selues vnto [Page] your owne husbandes as vnto the Lorde. For the husbande is the wyues heade, euen as Christe is the head of the congregation. Therfore as the congregation is in subiection to Christe, Lykewyse let the wyues be in subiectiō to theyr husbandes in all thinges.
Item let the wyfe se, Ephe. v that she feare her husbande. There seest thou, that it is euen so the ordinaūce of god, that thou shalt knowledge thy husbande, as thy Lorde and Mayster, and honoure hym with feare and obedyence. i. Pet. iii And saynt Peter sayth in the place aboue mentioned. That in the olde tyme the holy wemen dyd tyer [Page] themselues, not with syluer and golde, but that they trusted in God, and were obedyent to their husbandes, euen as Sara obeyed Abraham, Gene. xviij. and called hym lorde, whose doughters ye are, sayth Peter, yf ye followe theyr example.
The paynes and trauayl of the women.Thys sayeng shoulde the wyues marke in especial. It is very true, that the moost paine in wedlock goeth ouer the wyues, they lose theyr liberte, and must suffer greate calamity and miserye in wedlocke, with bearyng of children, and with nourysshyng and bryngyng them vp, whereof they shoulde be fre, yf they were not in wedlocke. Notwithstandyng here saith [Page] Saynt Peter: y t this was the tyeringe of the holy women, that they dyd put their trust in God: that is: They dyd not abhorre wedlocke for suche disquietnes and necessities sakes. They gaue themselues gladly into it, & trusted in God: that is: they had to God thys confidence, that he shoulde helpe them, and therfore they called vnto him for help. This do thou likewyse, thē arte thou goodly garnyshed and tyered before God, all hys Angelles & Saynctes. The attyremēt of the fayrest women. And nedest not from thencefurth to loke for good workes. Be obedyente vnto thy husbād, take, charge of hym, haue respecte vnto hym, and loke what he desyreth [Page] and wyl haue of the. Herewith doest thou serue God, and entrtainest peace and vnitie in thy house.
Furthermore, it shall also come to passe, that god w t his grace and blessynge will be with the and thy wyfe, and wil cause al goodnes to happē vnto you, as the C.xxviij. Psalme sayth. Psalm. C.xxviij Blessed is he, that feareth the Lorde, and walketh in his waies. Thou shalt enioye the labours of thyne owne handes O well is the, happie arte thou: thy wyfe shall be, as a frutefull vynearde rounde about thy housse. Thy children lyke the olyue braunches rounde aboute thy table. Lo, thus shal the man be blessed, that [Page] feareth the Lorde:
Therfore learne now, thus to guyde yourselues in wedlocke, then are ye alwayes prouyded. From the Deuils snare, as from the vnclenlynes oute of wedlocke are ye escaped, in so moche that before God ye may haue a good conscience: for he hymselfe hath ordeyned thys state of matrimony. And seynge ye pray dayly vnto God, that it wyll please him to assiste you dayly with hys grace, and kepe you in loue and vnitie. And also vse youre selues to thys, with a special diligence that ye be styl and peaceable and take well in worth the dayly transgressions & faultes one of another. Therfore [Page] shall your dwellynge be frendely and louing, that ye shal haue lust and ioye thereon.
Man and wyfe maye praye in aduersitye.And although the Crosse, which vndoubtedly shal not abyde oute, do ouertake you that nowe here, nowe there happeneth some misfortune, and that it prospereth not well, then maye ye yet lyfte vp your handes together in suche a common necessitie, & crye to God, for helpe. And the promyse is euen there at hande, which Christ pronoū ceth Matth. in the xviij. Mathe xviij. of two of you shall agree in earth vpon any maner of thynge, whatsoeuer they shall desyre, it shall be geuen them of my father which is in heauen. Wherfore wouldest [Page] thou then abhorre necessite, seyng helpe is promysed vnto the, and it fayleth in nothynge, but that thou & thy wyfe as a ryghte and hole churche of God praye for it? Also thou knowest thys, that it behoueth vs Christians, to beare the Crosse.
Therfore thanke God for thys grace, as I haue tolde you at the beginnyng, that ye are come to the holy state of matrimony: And praye, y t god wyll rule and gouerne you therein, & preserue you from synne and all inconueniences. And specially do your diligence, that ye suffer not Sathan to crepe in, through anger, and obstinatie: That your prayer y e hyest [Page] confort, be not let, and that ye may crye to god for helpe in all necessities, and kepe hys blessynge, grace, protection and defence, vntyll god brynge you with youres to another and better lyfe. Vvhere vnto helpe vs the grace in Christe.
AMEN.